Benefits of Healthy Sex Life

Did you know a recent study out of Duke University claims we should be having around 200 orgasms a year?  Think about that.  That averages out to an orgasm every 2 days.  Do you know anyone who orgasms every other day?  Who has time for that many orgasms? 

Well, you should.  The health benefits of frequent orgasms are well documented.  Sexual activity can actually bolster your immune system.  When you orgasm, you body produces more immunoglobin A, which is an enzyme that helps you fight off colds, flus and other illnesses.  Frequent sexual activity also increases the flow of blood and other bodily fluids to the genitals.  This blood flow carries fresh oxygen which replenishes antibacterial agents that can also improve your resistance to illness and infections.  Feeling a cold coming on?  Forget the chicken soup and zinc, try sex!

Sexual activity is also a great cardiovascular workout.  Actual intercourse can burn off 144 calories in a half-hour.  You can increase that by adding heavy petting, kissing, and other activities that can make you breathe hot and heavy.  The person on top burns the most calories so if you're looking for a good burn, don't just lie there!

Sex is a great pain reliever.  When you orgasm your body releases oxytocin, a natural opiate with analgesic properties.  If you have a headache, that's exactly when you should be having sex, not avoiding it.

Sex can help you sleep better.  After you orgasm, your blood pressure drops and your body releases natural sedatives that can lead to a deeper, more fulfilling sleep pattern.

Frequent sex will make you look better.  The release of endorphins can improve your complexion by keeping your skin supple.

Sex has even more health benefits.  For him, it may help fight cancer.  A recent study showed that the more frequently he ejaculates, the less likely he is to contract prostate cancer.  For her, frequent sexual activity will help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, preventing incontinence as she ages.

Whatever the reason - to look better, feel better or to stay healthy, sex is wonderful cure-all.  So start tracking your orgasms and shoot for 5 per week.  Your body (and partner) will thank you!

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How to Talk Dirty in the Modern Age

Remember love letters?  A time when people put pen to paper and poured out their romantic sentiments in a sonnet, a song, a poem?  Today, when our most poignant thoughts are reduced to 140 characters or less, is it still possible to get your partner hot and bothered with a text?  Absolutely!

Texts are the new love letters.  Unlike old fashioned letters and emails, the beauty of texts is the immediacy of the response.  You type something, they reply.  It's a conversation without the embarassing eye-contact.  Texts give you the freedom to say something you normally never would.  And, with apps like smartchat, you can even send naughty pictures that will quickly disappear.

The best part about texting is you can do it anytime, anywhere.  Don't necessarily save a naughty text until bedtime.  Let your partner know you are having romantic thoughts throughout the day - while sitting in a meeting, filling your car with gas, at a restaurant with friends.  The whole point of dirty texting is to build anticipation.  

Unsure how to start?  Obviously, evaluate where you are in your sexual relationship with your partner to gauge how receptive they will be to a naughty text.  Don't text to make sure they got the text.  This isn't the pony express - texts don't get lost.  If they haven't responded they are either not interested or can't.  Do not send a follow-up text.

Once you have a text dialogue going, don't be too cutesy.  Too many acronyms and emoticons will only confuse the recipient.  Besides, you're trying to be sexy, not cutesy.  And proof-read your texts - the danger of auto-correct is only too real!

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The Hottest Trend in Male Masturbation Products - Women Buying Them!

Look out all of you creators of Jack Rabbits, Ben-Wa Balls, and G-Spot Vibrators.  There's competition for women's disposable dollars.  Women have been streaming into Fantasy Gifts in advance of Father's Day to purchase one thing for their man - a product to help their man masturbate.

When we first started noticing this trend, we were admittedly puzzled.  Masturbation has always been looked upon as a solo activity.  An activity that some women liked to believe men gave up once they left puberty and entered a committed relationship.  I have one friend who has been happily married for 20 years.  She told me she was sure her  husband never masturbated.  "He doesn't need to," she stated, "I never deny him sex and our sex life has always been great.  Why would he rather make love to his hand than me?"  "Ask him," I told her, and she did.  She was surprised when he rather sheepishly admitted that he did masturbate on a regular basis.  Her initial feelings were of hurt and guilt.  Was she not enough to satisfy him sexually?  He was able to reassure her that while their sex life was great, if she had sex with him every time he felt a sexual urge, she wouldn't think it was so great anymore.  In fact, she'd be exhausted.

Men think of sex at least once a day.  They fantasize twice as often as women.  And studies show that when women enter into a committed relationship, their sex drive lowers while men's sex drive stays the same.  So if we know there's very little possibility that a woman can keep up with her man's needs, why not be the bigger person and lend them a helping hand?  Sure men can always use that old standby - their hand.  However, if you can't have a different partner, you may as well have a different grip.  With the number of devices on the market, isn't it better to get masturbation out of the closet and show your man you support him.  

There are masturbation devices for every price point and preference.  Unsure if you truly want to support his masturbation habit?  Start out with a disposable masturbator.  These toys start under $10.00 - a great way to try without a long commitment.  If you're both on board, you can get him a masturbator molded from his porn star.  If that feels a little too close to cheating, try a more generic masturbator.  The best-selling Fleshlight Series will give him a tight, realistic experience.  

Whatever you choose, your man will appreciate that you are acknowledging his sexual needs.  Let's face it, sometimes you will not always be able to satisfy him.  You may be recuperating from childbirth, entering menopause or just plain not in the mood.  Whatever the reason, a healthy, committed relationship will benefit from both partner's openly recognizing each other's needs and helping to satisfy them.  

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Celebrate Oral Sex Month!

June is Oral Sex Month! Celebrate by Doing Down!

June is Oral Sex Month and Fantasy Gifts is celebrating!  What started as a simple little day, June 9, has blossomed into an entire month!  How did June 9 become Oral Sex Day?  Think about it!  It's the ninth day of the sixth month - 6-9, 69 dude!

Whether you're going down on a him or a her, technique is important - otherwise it's just a hot mess!  Let's start with going down on him.  I once had a girlfriend who thought giving a blow job meant just that.  Imagine her date's surprise when she tried to literally tried to bring him to orgasm by just blowing on his penis!  Hopefully she's learned a little since then, like an effective blow job involves more than just the penis.  Men have several sensitive parts down there and they all deserve attention.  The testicles should be stimulated by playing with his balls.  His prostate, or p-spot, is said to be analogous to the women's g-spot.  It can be stimulated manually by using two knuckles to massage his perineum, or you can use a vibrator specifically designed to stimulate his p-spot.  We like Pipedream's Silicone PE vibrator.  It's narrowed, tapered tip makes insertion easy and the ringed handles makes for easy removal.

When performing oral sex, don't forget the lubricant!  Doc Johnson's Good Head Gel is specifically formulated to be used during oral sex.  It provides a tingly, flavored sensation.  Worried about gagging?  Try a product like Comfortably Numb Deep Throat Spray.  It's a flavored desensitizing spray that lightly coats the back of the throat to suppress the gag reflex during oral sex.  One of our favorite new products is the Doc Johnson Helping Head Ultimate BJ Helper.  This is a 2" mini stroker that fits over the shaft of the penis, leaving the most sensitive glands on the head of the penis free for oral stimulation.  The combination is sure to make any man explode!

If the latest news stories involving Michael Douglas have taught us anything, it's that there's no such thing as safe sex.  While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, you can transmit sexual diseases, such as the HP virus. If you're not in a safe, committed relationship, we recommend using a condom during oral sex.  Flavored condoms are available in many flavors to maximize your enjoyment.  

Don't forget to celebrate Oral Sex Month this June!  Stop by a Fantasy Gifts store in New Jersey and receive a free Tongue Dinger tongue vibrator free with any $50.00 purchase.  Next entry: Oral Sex for Her - it's more than just the alphabet!

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Sex After Breast Cancer

Angelina Jolie revealed today that she had made the courageous decision to undergo a preventative double mastectomy.  Jolie wrote an Op-Ed piece for the New York Times that she had made the decision based on genetic testing which revealed she had an 87% greater likelihood of contracting breast cancer and a 50% risk of contracting ovarian cancer.  Jolie, whose mother died of ovarian cancer, stated she had hoped other women would find encouragement from her story.  

Jolie was lucky in several respects.  She was able to afford the approximate $3,000.00 cost to have genetic testing, which is often uncovered by insurance agencies.  She had a loving and supportive partner (who happens to be Brad Pitt, so doubly lucky!).  And she was able to afford reconstructive surgery to her breasts.

One in eight women are likely to be diagnosed with breast cancer.  Prophylactic mastectomy procedures have risen by 50% over the last ten years.  For the thousands of women a year who undergo mastectomies, the procedure comes with significant mental ramifications.  Despite the psychological and cosmetic benefits of having reconstructive surgery, fewer than one in four women undergo the procedure.  Women who are on Medicaid or Medicare, are African-American, and who are treated at rural or non-teaching hospitals are less likely to have reconstructive surgery.  Breast reconstruction not only improves psychological but also sexual well-being.

Whether women opt for breast reconstruction or not, the lingering sexual effects of being a breast cancer survivor can last well after the patient is in remission.  Although survivor's quality of life typically begins to return to normal after one year, sexual difficulties often persist longer.  Chemotherapy

can push younger survivors into premature menopause, causing vaginal dryness and pain.  Vaginal dryness was one of the chief complaints of all breast cancer survivors.  To combat vaginal dryness, Fantasy Gifts recommends Pjur Eros Original Bodyglide.  Made of 100% medical grade silicone, Eros feels silky smooth and never dries out.  It is safe, extremely long-lasting, and produces a velvety-smooth lubrication.


Vaginal pain was another complaint.  Sexual medicine providers recommend vaginal dilators like Dr. Laura Berman's Dilator Set.  Starting at 2.75" circumference and going up to 4.75", the
Dilator Set works for every women.  The vibratory option helps to take the clinical edge off dilator use by making the focus on pleasure as well as training. 

Because many women experience sensory sensitivity after chemotherapy, Fantasy Gifts recommends non-flavored and unscented lubricants and massage oils.  System Jo All in One Sensual Massage Glide is an unscented, silicone-based massage oil.  Its highly concentrated formula can also be used as a personal lubricant.

Of course, the biggest complaint sexual complaint among breast cancer survivors was lack of sexual desire.  Unfortunately, there is no magic pill for that (unless the government finally decides to start funding research for female libido-enhancing drugs - but that's a different blog).  Loss of libido is tied to so many breast cancer issues: body self-esteem, lack of estrogen, pain, vaginal dryness, genital fatigue.  Our best advice is to try some of the above measures, see what works for you and what does not.  If your libido does not increase, have a frank, open discussion with your medical provider.  There is currently a low-dose topical estrogen cream that has met with positive results. 

Angelina Jolie remains one of the sexiest women in the world.  Her sexiness has nothing to do with her breasts - it's her confidence, her inner and outer beauty, and her sexuality.  To all breast cancer survivors, Fantasy Gifts is here to help - and we salute you!

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Rabbits are a Girl's Best Friend

One of our favorite questions at our Fantasy Gifts' stores is, "do you carry the rabbit?"  The question amuses us because the natural follow-up is, "which one?"  We carry about 20 rabbit style vibrators in our stores, but there have to be at least a hundred on the market right now.  Rabbit vibrators have been around for decades, however, it wasn't until "Sex and the City" featured Charlotte and her rabbit vibrator that the market really went main-stream.  The rabbit vibrator that Charlotte used was the Vibratex Rabbit Habit.  This is the Cadillac of rabbit vibrators, perfect for an Upper East Side Girl.  Made of elastomer, it is manufactured in Japan.  For anyone who favors a Toyota over a Ford - you'll know why Japanese motors are preferable!  It is actually illegal in Japan to make a sex toy that looks like a penis.  Hence, the rabbit was born!

Contrary to popular belief, rabbits come in all shapes and sizes.  When choosing a rabbit vibrator, first decide what material you would like.  Metal rabbits, while cold to start, warm up with your body and are hypo-allergenic.  The cheapest rabbits are made of TPE, which stands for thermo-plastic elastomer.  We like California Exotic's My First Jack Rabbit.  If you've never tried a rabbit vibrator before, this is a great one to start with.  The price point is reasonable, at under $40.00 It also has a slighter slimmer shaft so it's not too scary the first time out!

Once you've warmed up to your rabbit vibrator and you've decided you like it, the next step is to move up the California Exotic Waterproof Jack Rabbit.  This vibrator is made of PVC which is a supple, jelly-like material.  The cap secures so it can be used in or out of the water.  The multi-function shaft features variable speed and the rabbit ears have three speeds for intense clitoral stimulation.  At bit pricier at just under $70.00, this is our number one selling vibrator.

Looking for something different?  Try Pipedream Icicles No. 16.  This is the first ever vibrating glass rabbit.  It has 10 patterns of pulsation and the bullet can be used without the glass.  Glass vibrators are hypoallergenic, nonporous and body safe.  If cared for properly, they can last a lifetime.  Run the rabbit under warm water or place it in the microwave to heat things up.  Alternatively, chill it under cold water or put it in the freezer for a cool sensation.  Since glass is nonporous, cleanup is a snap.  Use toy cleaner and warm water or put it in the dishwasher for a worry-free wash after the fun.

One of the best ways to experience the joy of a rabbit is with the Wand Essentials Rabbit Attachment.  This little bunny fits onto what's already known as a girl's best friend - your Hitachi Magic Wand.  Combine the super-strength of the Hitachi's Magic Wand rechargeable, Japanese motor with this attachment and you'll soon be squirming with pleasure!

Finally, when you've really decided you love rabbits and are ready to make a significant investment in your pleasure, our favorite is Vanity by Jopen VR 10.  Made of smooth, firm silicone, it is water-safe.  The rechargeable stimulator has synchronous dual vibrating motors plus independent rotation.  It is ergonomically designed for the natural contours of a woman and has powerful, independent motors in the stimulator, shaft and rotating head.  Waterproof, whisper quiet, rechargeable, this vibrator has it all and also comes with a limited 10 year warranty.  A significant return on your investment for under $200.00.

Whether you're alone or with a partner, a rabbit is one of the best-selling sex toys of all time.  Stop in to your favorite store or look on-line for your new cuddly rabbit friend!

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Spring Clean Your Sex Life!

I don't know about you, but once March hits I can feel the change instantly.  Spring is in the air.  We might still see the occasional snowflake or experience a chilly day but there's no doubt about it, there's been a change in seasons.  The days are getting longer, the nights less frigid.  There are even a few flowers popping up.

What is it about a change of seasons that makes you want to clean?  Something about boxing up all those sweaters makes you want to take stock of what you have, toss out the old and bring in the new.  This time of year we clean out cabinets, wash windows and scrub baseboards.  Perhaps it's time to spring clean our sex lives as well.

Not all spring cleaning takes place in the bedroom but it is an ideal place to start.  First, pack away the flannel sheets and heavy comforters.  Bring in some new, fresh sheets and duvets.  Spray your sheets with a new lovely scent.  We like Dona by Jo Linen Spray.  This aphrodisiac infused spray will help you redefine the bedroom and give your linens and sheets a sensual touch.

While you're adding fresh sheets and linens, why not clean out the lingerie drawer.  First, start with the panty drawer.  Throw out those nasty old panties that no longer fit, are stained, or are just plain ugly.  Move on to your bras.  A bra cannot withstand electric washing for longer than six months - a year tops if you don't wear it often.  Try all of your bras on and  get rid of the ones that are no longer flattering.  If you've had a weight gain/loss recently, you'll probably need to be resized.  Most lingerie stores will measure you for free.

Now look at your sex toys.  Sex toys should be stores in a cool, dry place away from pets (and kids!) and free from dirt and dust.  Silicone toys should not be stored together as they can cause each other to break down.  Inspect all of your toys.  Look for breakage and wear and tear.  Toys that are corroded or mildewed need to be tossed.  Inspect the battery packs too.  Ideally you should remove your batteries after each use but if you haven't check to make sure the batteries are in good order.  Clean your toys thoroughly.  We like to use Wet Keep it Clean Anti Bacterial Foaming Toy Wash.  A little bit goes a long way and the foaming action allows for targeted application and a deep clean. Keep It Clean™ Toy Wash will not harm most toy materials including rubber, silicone, latex, realistic materials, jelly rubber, plastic, metal, or glass.

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