Your Prostate and Sexual Health

September is National Prostate Month!  Why is this little organ so important and why should it be on your radar?  Because over 30 million men suffer from prostate conditions that affect their quality of life.

For those of you who don't know, the prostate is actually a sexual organ.  It's a small gland, about the size of a walnut, that surrounds the urethra.  The urethra carries urine and semen through the penis.  In some men, the prostate begins to grow around age 40.  An enlarged prostate can lead to frequent urination or erectile dysfunction.  Prostate cancer is also the most common cancer found in men and is the second leading cause of death among men (lung cancer is first).

Because the prostate is a sexual organ, the stimulation of it during sexual intercourse is very pleasurable for most men.  Fortunately, unlike the elusive g-spot, it's also easier to find.  While you can use an ordinary g-spot vibrator to stimulate the prostate, we recommend a vibrator specifically meant for the prostate like Dr. Joel Kaplan's Prostate Massager.

There's also a fabulous new line of male prostate devices from Aneros.  Aneros' prostate massagers are designed to trigger multiple orgasms by stimulating and strengthening the prostate.  The tip of the massager rests comfortably against the prostate while the massager pivots back and forth using only the anal muscles.  This enables a man's erection to be harder and last longer.  

As with any massager, we always recommend using a lubricant.  Aneros again comes to the rescue with a line of Marksman Disposable Lubricant Applicators which are pre-filled lubricant shooters designed to deliver the perfect amount of lubricant right on target, every time.  

The important thing to remember is that all men have a prostate.  Like any part of your body, it is important to care for it.  The stimulation of the prostate produces a normal, healthy, sexual response.  

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Lips, lips and lips!

It's National Lipstick Day!  No one really knows the origin of this holiday but anything that makes us look shiny and pretty, I'm all for!  Lipstick was probably invented by Mesopotamian women who crushed gemstones and used them to decorate their lips.  This probably got costly fast because by the time Cleopatra started using make-up, she was using crushed carmine beetles. Somewhere around the 17th century, church goers started to believe only prostitutes wore lipstick and they quickly rushed to have it banned.  Thankfully, Queen Elizabeth I kept lipstick in fashion by promoting white faces with red lips and the upper classes managed to keep their lipstick.  The first lipstick tube did not appear until 1915.  Suffice it to say, we've come a long way baby!

Because of all of their high number of nerve endings, lips are a wonderful erogenous zone.  Not only are they a perfect fit for each other, but your lips can be used to touch any other erogenous zone!    Lips should also be kept slightly moist, never chapped.  Rub a dry washcloth on your lips to gently exfoliate the area and apply lip balm or moisturized lipstick frequently.  If you prefer a more natural lip balm, try honey, almond oil or coconut oil.  Drink plenty of water and your lips will stay moist and sexy.

One of our favorite products for National Lipstick Day is Screaming O's Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator.

This chic and discreet multi-function vibrator is the perfect way to celebrate National Lipstick Day! It's not just a fun novelty, this vibrator can be tossed into your make-up bag for a discreet way to get a buzz on every day!  

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Cool off With Hot Sex!

It's hot outside!  It's hot inside!  It's so muggy and disgusting, you don't want anyone to touch you - so what should you do?  Forgo sex until the fall?  Probably not a great idea.  Instead - try these hot weather sex tips!  The only thing that'll heat up will be your sex life!

1.Try sex in the water.  ANY water!  No pool?  No problem?  Go crazy with a little PDA and search out a secluded lake or ocean.  Use your neighbor's pool if they are not home (or be real quiet if they are home)!  Even your bathtub or shower will feel great - especially if you incorporate some water fun toys from Sportsheets Sex in the Shower line!

2.Think cold - ice cold.  Try putting a sex toy in the freezer.  We love the Icicles line from Pipedream Products but any glass sex toy should work.  The ice cold sensation will slowly change with the heat of your body to a red hot experience.

3.Embrace your nudity.  Summer is hot.  Too hot for clothes.  Walk around like a sexy vixen in your panties or, better yet, naked.  You'll be surprised how sexual you'll feel when you are freed from the constraints of your clothes.  Best of all, you're always ready to go!

4.Turn up the heat.  When you sweat, your body produce pheromones, those lovely little smells that tell your partner you're ready to go.  Don't mask those smells, embrace them!

5. Have sex outside.  You can't do this in the winter, so get the benefits of the season and hit the great outdoors.  Have sex in the lake, the ocean, the canoe, anywhere so long as you both are comfortable.  One tip, avoid sand sex.  Although it looked hot in From Here to Eternity, chances are Deborah Kerr was picking sand out of her lady parts for months to come!

6.Cool off with minty oral sex.  There are so many great products on the market - you can try a minty oral lubricant like Doc Johnson's Good Head Gel or some oral sex mints.  We like Go Deep Oral Sex Mints. Either way you'll get a cool, tingly feeling during oral sex.  

7.Don't stop there - cool off during regular sex too!  Some lubricants like Wet Ecstasy Xtra Cooling Lubricant contain a hint of pepperming extract for an amazingly soothing, cooling sensation.

8.Summertime has tons of natural aphrodisiacs in their peak season.  Try fresh oysters on the halfshell, strawberries with champagne, avocado (guacamole and chips?) or asparagus.  

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Benefits of Healthy Sex Life

Did you know a recent study out of Duke University claims we should be having around 200 orgasms a year?  Think about that.  That averages out to an orgasm every 2 days.  Do you know anyone who orgasms every other day?  Who has time for that many orgasms? 

Well, you should.  The health benefits of frequent orgasms are well documented.  Sexual activity can actually bolster your immune system.  When you orgasm, you body produces more immunoglobin A, which is an enzyme that helps you fight off colds, flus and other illnesses.  Frequent sexual activity also increases the flow of blood and other bodily fluids to the genitals.  This blood flow carries fresh oxygen which replenishes antibacterial agents that can also improve your resistance to illness and infections.  Feeling a cold coming on?  Forget the chicken soup and zinc, try sex!

Sexual activity is also a great cardiovascular workout.  Actual intercourse can burn off 144 calories in a half-hour.  You can increase that by adding heavy petting, kissing, and other activities that can make you breathe hot and heavy.  The person on top burns the most calories so if you're looking for a good burn, don't just lie there!

Sex is a great pain reliever.  When you orgasm your body releases oxytocin, a natural opiate with analgesic properties.  If you have a headache, that's exactly when you should be having sex, not avoiding it.

Sex can help you sleep better.  After you orgasm, your blood pressure drops and your body releases natural sedatives that can lead to a deeper, more fulfilling sleep pattern.

Frequent sex will make you look better.  The release of endorphins can improve your complexion by keeping your skin supple.

Sex has even more health benefits.  For him, it may help fight cancer.  A recent study showed that the more frequently he ejaculates, the less likely he is to contract prostate cancer.  For her, frequent sexual activity will help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, preventing incontinence as she ages.

Whatever the reason - to look better, feel better or to stay healthy, sex is wonderful cure-all.  So start tracking your orgasms and shoot for 5 per week.  Your body (and partner) will thank you!

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How to Talk Dirty in the Modern Age

Remember love letters?  A time when people put pen to paper and poured out their romantic sentiments in a sonnet, a song, a poem?  Today, when our most poignant thoughts are reduced to 140 characters or less, is it still possible to get your partner hot and bothered with a text?  Absolutely!

Texts are the new love letters.  Unlike old fashioned letters and emails, the beauty of texts is the immediacy of the response.  You type something, they reply.  It's a conversation without the embarassing eye-contact.  Texts give you the freedom to say something you normally never would.  And, with apps like smartchat, you can even send naughty pictures that will quickly disappear.

The best part about texting is you can do it anytime, anywhere.  Don't necessarily save a naughty text until bedtime.  Let your partner know you are having romantic thoughts throughout the day - while sitting in a meeting, filling your car with gas, at a restaurant with friends.  The whole point of dirty texting is to build anticipation.  

Unsure how to start?  Obviously, evaluate where you are in your sexual relationship with your partner to gauge how receptive they will be to a naughty text.  Don't text to make sure they got the text.  This isn't the pony express - texts don't get lost.  If they haven't responded they are either not interested or can't.  Do not send a follow-up text.

Once you have a text dialogue going, don't be too cutesy.  Too many acronyms and emoticons will only confuse the recipient.  Besides, you're trying to be sexy, not cutesy.  And proof-read your texts - the danger of auto-correct is only too real!

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The Hottest Trend in Male Masturbation Products - Women Buying Them!

Look out all of you creators of Jack Rabbits, Ben-Wa Balls, and G-Spot Vibrators.  There's competition for women's disposable dollars.  Women have been streaming into Fantasy Gifts in advance of Father's Day to purchase one thing for their man - a product to help their man masturbate.

When we first started noticing this trend, we were admittedly puzzled.  Masturbation has always been looked upon as a solo activity.  An activity that some women liked to believe men gave up once they left puberty and entered a committed relationship.  I have one friend who has been happily married for 20 years.  She told me she was sure her  husband never masturbated.  "He doesn't need to," she stated, "I never deny him sex and our sex life has always been great.  Why would he rather make love to his hand than me?"  "Ask him," I told her, and she did.  She was surprised when he rather sheepishly admitted that he did masturbate on a regular basis.  Her initial feelings were of hurt and guilt.  Was she not enough to satisfy him sexually?  He was able to reassure her that while their sex life was great, if she had sex with him every time he felt a sexual urge, she wouldn't think it was so great anymore.  In fact, she'd be exhausted.

Men think of sex at least once a day.  They fantasize twice as often as women.  And studies show that when women enter into a committed relationship, their sex drive lowers while men's sex drive stays the same.  So if we know there's very little possibility that a woman can keep up with her man's needs, why not be the bigger person and lend them a helping hand?  Sure men can always use that old standby - their hand.  However, if you can't have a different partner, you may as well have a different grip.  With the number of devices on the market, isn't it better to get masturbation out of the closet and show your man you support him.  

There are masturbation devices for every price point and preference.  Unsure if you truly want to support his masturbation habit?  Start out with a disposable masturbator.  These toys start under $10.00 - a great way to try without a long commitment.  If you're both on board, you can get him a masturbator molded from his porn star.  If that feels a little too close to cheating, try a more generic masturbator.  The best-selling Fleshlight Series will give him a tight, realistic experience.  

Whatever you choose, your man will appreciate that you are acknowledging his sexual needs.  Let's face it, sometimes you will not always be able to satisfy him.  You may be recuperating from childbirth, entering menopause or just plain not in the mood.  Whatever the reason, a healthy, committed relationship will benefit from both partner's openly recognizing each other's needs and helping to satisfy them.  

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Celebrate Oral Sex Month!

June is Oral Sex Month! Celebrate by Doing Down!

June is Oral Sex Month and Fantasy Gifts is celebrating!  What started as a simple little day, June 9, has blossomed into an entire month!  How did June 9 become Oral Sex Day?  Think about it!  It's the ninth day of the sixth month - 6-9, 69 dude!

Whether you're going down on a him or a her, technique is important - otherwise it's just a hot mess!  Let's start with going down on him.  I once had a girlfriend who thought giving a blow job meant just that.  Imagine her date's surprise when she tried to literally tried to bring him to orgasm by just blowing on his penis!  Hopefully she's learned a little since then, like an effective blow job involves more than just the penis.  Men have several sensitive parts down there and they all deserve attention.  The testicles should be stimulated by playing with his balls.  His prostate, or p-spot, is said to be analogous to the women's g-spot.  It can be stimulated manually by using two knuckles to massage his perineum, or you can use a vibrator specifically designed to stimulate his p-spot.  We like Pipedream's Silicone PE vibrator.  It's narrowed, tapered tip makes insertion easy and the ringed handles makes for easy removal.

When performing oral sex, don't forget the lubricant!  Doc Johnson's Good Head Gel is specifically formulated to be used during oral sex.  It provides a tingly, flavored sensation.  Worried about gagging?  Try a product like Comfortably Numb Deep Throat Spray.  It's a flavored desensitizing spray that lightly coats the back of the throat to suppress the gag reflex during oral sex.  One of our favorite new products is the Doc Johnson Helping Head Ultimate BJ Helper.  This is a 2" mini stroker that fits over the shaft of the penis, leaving the most sensitive glands on the head of the penis free for oral stimulation.  The combination is sure to make any man explode!

If the latest news stories involving Michael Douglas have taught us anything, it's that there's no such thing as safe sex.  While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, you can transmit sexual diseases, such as the HP virus. If you're not in a safe, committed relationship, we recommend using a condom during oral sex.  Flavored condoms are available in many flavors to maximize your enjoyment.  

Don't forget to celebrate Oral Sex Month this June!  Stop by a Fantasy Gifts store in New Jersey and receive a free Tongue Dinger tongue vibrator free with any $50.00 purchase.  Next entry: Oral Sex for Her - it's more than just the alphabet!

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