Fantasy Gifts New Jersey: 2013

Halloween Isn't Just for Kids

Halloween is just around the corner and we've all been inundated with costumes. With pop-up costume stores on every corner, it may seem impossible to create a unique, adult costume that won't make you look like every other sexy cat in the neighborhood. Luckily, a creative adult costume doesn't have to come from a package. With a few basic pieces, you can transform yourself into almost anything you can imagine. Best of all, these pieces can all be worn again giving you a significant return on your investment. Ready to start creating?

Step 1. Start with a great corset. A great corset is the perfect foundation from which to build your costume. Best of all, no female wardrobe is complete without one. A corset is not only sexy on its own at a club, it looks great under a blazer for a sophisticated night out and looks even better alone with a g-string as lingerie. There are so many wonderful uses for a great corset that if you don't already buy one, now is the perfect opportunity. Fantasy Gifts in New Jersey has a great selection up to sizes 3X and some are even reversible - giving you even more bang for your buck!

Step 2. Add a tutu. Almost all fun, sexy costumes for women can incorporate a tutu. Witches, showgirls, pirates, cats, princess, flappers - the list goes on and on. Tutus are fun and can show off a great pair of legs.
They are also relatively inexpensive, even the light-up ones cost under $20.00 so go for it!

Step 3. Pick out hosiery. No matter what the costume - you need to cover those legs on a cold fall night. Fantasy Gifts in New Jersey has a large selection of fishnets, thigh his, back seamed, school girl tights - you name, we have it in your size and color!

Step 4. Add a wig. Wigs are fun. Don't mess with styling your hair - a great wig will instantly transform your appearance while still keeping you super sexy. For one night, have the hair of your dreams!

Step 5. Add some lashes. False eyelashes are the surest way to make your eyes pop. This is Halloween - make a dramatic statement.

Step 6. Add your accessories. You already have a great foundation - now you can accessorize it any way you want to truly make your costume unique. Add cat ears and a tail and you're a sexy cat. A witch's hat and a wand - boom! Some cute wings and you can be a ladybug, bumblebee or anything that flies. Put your hair in pigtails and add a plaid skirt and you're a naughty school girl. Accessories are the cheapest and easiest way to take the guess work out of your costume building.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month

While October is the time for all things spooky and creepy here's one thing really scary - many women miss the early signs of breast cancer because they either don't do self-exams or do not have a mammogram. According to the National Cancer Institute, if breast cancer is caught early and localized, the 5 year survival rate is 98%. Think about that. In comparison, the five year survival rate for lung cancer is only 16%.

Although breast cancer awareness is one of the best funded campaigns, too many women are still dying of this treatable disease. To aid in breast cancer awareness, we suggest you purchase the

Evolved Faith Waterproof Vibrator. You can raise awareness and support for breast cancer while stimulating yourself! The proceeds from every purchase of this vibrator will go to the Save the Ta Tas Foundation.

If you're a breast cancer survivor, you may be suffering from the effects of your treatment. These effects could be interfering with your sexual health. If your libido is low, try reading an erotic novel. If you've already tapped out the Fifty Shades of Grey series, we suggest trying the Sylvia Day's series Bared to You. To be honest, we think it's written better and the lead female character is less whiny and virginal!

If a book isn't your thing, try watching a movie together. Just in time for Halloween we offer Zero Tolerance Official Halloween Parody. All of the gore of the original Halloween movie, with just enough humor and raunchy sex to entertain!

Another side effect of breast cancer treatment is vaginal dryness. Although we always recommend all women use a lubricant during sexual intercourse, it is particularly important if your body is not capable of producing normal levels of vaginal secretions. Although Pjur Eros Original Bodyglide is our number one selling silicone based lubricant - and a fabulous product- for breast cancer survivors we often recommend Pjur Medical Natural Glide. It is from the same manufacturer, but it is water based and mimics the natural ingredients your body normally produces.

More than 70% of breast cancer survivors report having significant problems in the bedroom more than 2 years after their diagnosis according to the Journal of Sexual Medicine. The important thing to remember if you are one of them is you are not alone and you do not have to suffer. A female friendly store like Fantasy Gifts offers knowledgeable, trained women staff who can help you with all of your sexual wellness needs. You can also go online or visit your neighborhood pharmacist. The important thing is to discuss your sexual issues honestly with your doctor and your partner. Empower yourself and recognize you deserve a healthy and happy sexual life.

Your Prostate and Sexual Health

September is National Prostate Month! Why is this little organ so important and why should it be on your radar? Because over 30 million men suffer from prostate conditions that affect their quality of life.

For those of you who don't know, the prostate is actually a sexual organ. It's a small gland, about the size of a walnut, that surrounds the urethra. The urethra carries urine and semen through the penis. In some men, the prostate begins to grow around age 40. An enlarged prostate can lead to frequent urination or erectile dysfunction. Prostate cancer is also the most common cancer found in men and is the second leading cause of death among men (lung cancer is first).

Because the prostate is a sexual organ, the stimulation of it during sexual intercourse is very pleasurable for most men. Fortunately, unlike the elusive g-spot, it's also easier to find. While you can use an ordinary g-spot vibrator to stimulate the prostate, we recommend a vibrator specifically meant for the prostate like Dr. Joel Kaplan's Prostate Massager.

There's also a fabulous new line of male prostate devices from Aneros. Aneros' prostate massagers are designed to trigger multiple orgasms by stimulating and strengthening the prostate. The tip of the massager rests comfortably against the prostate while the massager pivots back and forth using only the anal muscles. This enables a man's erection to be harder and last longer.

As with any massager, we always recommend using a lubricant. Aneros again comes to the rescue with a line of Marksman Disposable Lubricant Applicators which are pre-filled lubricant shooters designed to deliver the perfect amount of lubricant right on target, every time.

The important thing to remember is that all men have a prostate. Like any part of your body, it is important to care for it. The stimulation of the prostate produces a normal, healthy, sexual response.

Lips, lips and lips!

It's National Lipstick Day! No one really knows the origin of this holiday but anything that makes us look shiny and pretty, I'm all for! Lipstick was probably invented by Mesopotamian women who crushed gemstones and used them to decorate their lips. This probably got costly fast because by the time Cleopatra started using make-up, she was using crushed carmine beetles. Somewhere around the 17th century, church goers started to believe only prostitutes wore lipstick and they quickly rushed to have it banned. Thankfully, Queen Elizabeth I kept lipstick in fashion by promoting white faces with red lips and the upper classes managed to keep their lipstick. The first lipstick tube did not appear until 1915. Suffice it to say, we've come a long way baby!

Because of all of their high number of nerve endings, lips are a wonderful erogenous zone. Not only are they a perfect fit for each other, but your lips can be used to touch any other erogenous zone! Lips should also be kept slightly moist, never chapped. Rub a dry washcloth on your lips to gently exfoliate the area and apply lip balm or moisturized lipstick frequently. If you prefer a more natural lip balm, try honey, almond oil or coconut oil. Drink plenty of water and your lips will stay moist and sexy.

One of our favorite products for National Lipstick Day is Screaming O's Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator.

This chic and discreet multi-function vibrator is the perfect way to celebrate National Lipstick Day! It's not just a fun novelty, this vibrator can be tossed into your make-up bag for a discreet way to get a buzz on every day!

Cool off With Hot Sex!

It's hot outside! It's hot inside! It's so muggy and disgusting, you don't want anyone to touch you - so what should you do? Forgo sex until the fall? Probably not a great idea. Instead - try these hot weather sex tips! The only thing that'll heat up will be your sex life!

1.Try sex in the water. ANY water! No pool? No problem? Go crazy with a little PDA and search out a secluded lake or ocean. Use your neighbor's pool if they are not home (or be real quiet if they are home)! Even your bathtub or shower will feel great - especially if you incorporate some water fun toys from Sportsheets Sex in the Shower line!

2.Think cold - ice cold. Try putting a sex toy in the freezer. We love the Icicles line from Pipedream Products but any glass sex toy should work. The ice cold sensation will slowly change with the heat of your body to a red hot experience.

3.Embrace your nudity. Summer is hot. Too hot for clothes. Walk around like a sexy vixen in your panties or, better yet, naked. You'll be surprised how sexual you'll feel when you are freed from the constraints of your clothes. Best of all, you're always ready to go!

4.Turn up the heat. When you sweat, your body produce pheromones, those lovely little smells that tell your partner you're ready to go. Don't mask those smells, embrace them!

5. Have sex outside. You can't do this in the winter, so get the benefits of the season and hit the great outdoors. Have sex in the lake, the ocean, the canoe, anywhere so long as you both are comfortable. One tip, avoid sand sex. Although it looked hot in From Here to Eternity, chances are Deborah Kerr was picking sand out of her lady parts for months to come!

6.Cool off with minty oral sex. There are so many great products on the market - you can try a minty oral lubricant like Doc Johnson's Good Head Gel or some oral sex mints. We like Go Deep Oral Sex Mints. Either way you'll get a cool, tingly feeling during oral sex.

7.Don't stop there - cool off during regular sex too! Some lubricants like Wet Ecstasy Xtra Cooling Lubricant contain a hint of pepperming extract for an amazingly soothing, cooling sensation.

8.Summertime has tons of natural aphrodisiacs in their peak season. Try fresh oysters on the halfshell, strawberries with champagne, avocado (guacamole and chips?) or asparagus.

Benefits of Healthy Sex Life

Did you know a recent study out of Duke University claims we should be having around 200 orgasms a year? Think about that. That averages out to an orgasm every 2 days. Do you know anyone who orgasms every other day? Who has time for that many orgasms?

Well, you should. The health benefits of frequent orgasms are well documented. Sexual activity can actually bolster your immune system. When you orgasm, you body produces more immunoglobin A, which is an enzyme that helps you fight off colds, flus and other illnesses. Frequent sexual activity also increases the flow of blood and other bodily fluids to the genitals. This blood flow carries fresh oxygen which replenishes antibacterial agents that can also improve your resistance to illness and infections. Feeling a cold coming on? Forget the chicken soup and zinc, try sex!

Sexual activity is also a great cardiovascular workout. Actual intercourse can burn off 144 calories in a half-hour. You can increase that by adding heavy petting, kissing, and other activities that can make you breathe hot and heavy. The person on top burns the most calories so if you're looking for a good burn, don't just lie there!

Sex is a great pain reliever. When you orgasm your body releases oxytocin, a natural opiate with analgesic properties. If you have a headache, that's exactly when you should be having sex, not avoiding it.

Sex can help you sleep better. After you orgasm, your blood pressure drops and your body releases natural sedatives that can lead to a deeper, more fulfilling sleep pattern.

Frequent sex will make you look better. The release of endorphins can improve your complexion by keeping your skin supple.

Sex has even more health benefits. For him, it may help fight cancer. A recent study showed that the more frequently he ejaculates, the less likely he is to contract prostate cancer. For her, frequent sexual activity will help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, preventing incontinence as she ages.

Whatever the reason - to look better, feel better or to stay healthy, sex is wonderful cure-all. So start tracking your orgasms and shoot for 5 per week. Your body (and partner) will thank you!

How to Talk Dirty in the Modern Age

Remember love letters? A time when people put pen to paper and poured out their romantic sentiments in a sonnet, a song, a poem? Today, when our most poignant thoughts are reduced to 140 characters or less, is it still possible to get your partner hot and bothered with a text? Absolutely!

Texts are the new love letters. Unlike old fashioned letters and emails, the beauty of texts is the immediacy of the response. You type something, they reply. It's a conversation without the embarassing eye-contact. Texts give you the freedom to say something you normally never would. And, with apps like smartchat, you can even send naughty pictures that will quickly disappear.

The best part about texting is you can do it anytime, anywhere. Don't necessarily save a naughty text until bedtime. Let your partner know you are having romantic thoughts throughout the day - while sitting in a meeting, filling your car with gas, at a restaurant with friends. The whole point of dirty texting is to build anticipation.

Unsure how to start? Obviously, evaluate where you are in your sexual relationship with your partner to gauge how receptive they will be to a naughty text. Don't text to make sure they got the text. This isn't the pony express - texts don't get lost. If they haven't responded they are either not interested or can't. Do not send a follow-up text.

Once you have a text dialogue going, don't be too cutesy. Too many acronyms and emoticons will only confuse the recipient. Besides, you're trying to be sexy, not cutesy. And proof-read your texts - the danger of auto-correct is only too real!

The Hottest Trend in Male Masturbation Products - Women Buying Them!

Look out all of you creators of Jack Rabbits, Ben-Wa Balls, and G-Spot Vibrators. There's competition for women's disposable dollars. Women have been streaming into Fantasy Gifts in advance of Father's Day to purchase one thing for their man - a product to help their man masturbate.

When we first started noticing this trend, we were admittedly puzzled. Masturbation has always been looked upon as a solo activity. An activity that some women liked to believe men gave up once they left puberty and entered a committed relationship. I have one friend who has been happily married for 20 years. She told me she was sure her husband never masturbated. "He doesn't need to," she stated, "I never deny him sex and our sex life has always been great. Why would he rather make love to his hand than me?" "Ask him," I told her, and she did. She was surprised when he rather sheepishly admitted that he did masturbate on a regular basis. Her initial feelings were of hurt and guilt. Was she not enough to satisfy him sexually? He was able to reassure her that while their sex life was great, if she had sex with him every time he felt a sexual urge, she wouldn't think it was so great anymore. In fact, she'd be exhausted.

Men think of sex at least once a day. They fantasize twice as often as women. And studies show that when women enter into a committed relationship, their sex drive lowers while men's sex drive stays the same. So if we know there's very little possibility that a woman can keep up with her man's needs, why not be the bigger person and lend them a helping hand? Sure men can always use that old standby - their hand. However, if you can't have a different partner, you may as well have a different grip. With the number of devices on the market, isn't it better to get masturbation out of the closet and show your man you support him.

There are masturbation devices for every price point and preference. Unsure if you truly want to support his masturbation habit? Start out with a disposable masturbator. These toys start under $10.00 - a great way to try without a long commitment. If you're both on board, you can get him a masturbator molded from his porn star. If that feels a little too close to cheating, try a more generic masturbator. The best-selling Fleshlight Series will give him a tight, realistic experience.

Whatever you choose, your man will appreciate that you are acknowledging his sexual needs. Let's face it, sometimes you will not always be able to satisfy him. You may be recuperating from childbirth, entering menopause or just plain not in the mood. Whatever the reason, a healthy, committed relationship will benefit from both partner's openly recognizing each other's needs and helping to satisfy them.

Celebrate Oral Sex Month!

June is Oral Sex Month! Celebrate by Doing Down!

June is Oral Sex Month and Fantasy Gifts is celebrating! What started as a simple little day, June 9, has blossomed into an entire month! How did June 9 become Oral Sex Day? Think about it! It's the ninth day of the sixth month - 6-9, 69 dude!

Whether you're going down on a him or a her, technique is important - otherwise it's just a hot mess! Let's start with going down on him. I once had a girlfriend who thought giving a blow job meant just that. Imagine her date's surprise when she tried to literally tried to bring him to orgasm by just blowing on his penis! Hopefully she's learned a little since then, like an effective blow job involves more than just the penis. Men have several sensitive parts down there and they all deserve attention. The testicles should be stimulated by playing with his balls. His prostate, or p-spot, is said to be analogous to the women's g-spot. It can be stimulated manually by using two knuckles to massage his perineum, or you can use a vibrator specifically designed to stimulate his p-spot. We like Pipedream's Silicone PE vibrator. It's narrowed, tapered tip makes insertion easy and the ringed handles makes for easy removal.

When performing oral sex, don't forget the lubricant! Doc Johnson's Good Head Gel is specifically formulated to be used during oral sex. It provides a tingly, flavored sensation. Worried about gagging? Try a product like Comfortably Numb Deep Throat Spray. It's a flavored desensitizing spray that lightly coats the back of the throat to suppress the gag reflex during oral sex. One of our favorite new products is the Doc Johnson Helping Head Ultimate BJ Helper. This is a 2" mini stroker that fits over the shaft of the penis, leaving the most sensitive glands on the head of the penis free for oral stimulation. The combination is sure to make any man explode!

If the latest news stories involving Michael Douglas have taught us anything, it's that there's no such thing as safe sex. While you can't get pregnant from oral sex, you can transmit sexual diseases, such as the HP virus. If you're not in a safe, committed relationship, we recommend using a condom during oral sex. Flavored condoms are available in many flavors to maximize your enjoyment.

Don't forget to celebrate Oral Sex Month this June! Stop by a Fantasy Gifts store in New Jersey and receive a free Tongue Dinger tongue vibrator free with any $50.00 purchase. Next entry: Oral Sex for Her - it's more than just the alphabet!

Sex After Breast Cancer

Angelina Jolie revealed today that she had made the courageous decision to undergo a preventative double mastectomy. Jolie wrote an Op-Ed piece for the New York Times that she had made the decision based on genetic testing which revealed she had an 87% greater likelihood of contracting breast cancer and a 50% risk of contracting ovarian cancer. Jolie, whose mother died of ovarian cancer, stated she had hoped other women would find encouragement from her story.

Jolie was lucky in several respects. She was able to afford the approximate $3,000.00 cost to have genetic testing, which is often uncovered by insurance agencies. She had a loving and supportive partner (who happens to be Brad Pitt, so doubly lucky!). And she was able to afford reconstructive surgery to her breasts.

One in eight women are likely to be diagnosed with breast cancer. Prophylactic mastectomy procedures have risen by 50% over the last ten years. For the thousands of women a year who undergo mastectomies, the procedure comes with significant mental ramifications. Despite the psychological and cosmetic benefits of having reconstructive surgery, fewer than one in four women undergo the procedure. Women who are on Medicaid or Medicare, are African-American, and who are treated at rural or non-teaching hospitals are less likely to have reconstructive surgery. Breast reconstruction not only improves psychological but also sexual well-being.

Whether women opt for breast reconstruction or not, the lingering sexual effects of being a breast cancer survivor can last well after the patient is in remission. Although survivor's quality of life typically begins to return to normal after one year, sexual difficulties often persist longer. Chemotherapy

can push younger survivors into premature menopause, causing vaginal dryness and pain. Vaginal dryness was one of the chief complaints of all breast cancer survivors. To combat vaginal dryness, Fantasy Gifts recommends Pjur Eros Original Bodyglide. Made of 100% medical grade silicone, Eros feels silky smooth and never dries out. It is safe, extremely long-lasting, and produces a velvety-smooth lubrication.

Vaginal pain was another complaint. Sexual medicine providers recommend vaginal dilators like Dr. Laura Berman's Dilator Set. Starting at 2.75" circumference and going up to 4.75", the
Dilator Set works for every women. The vibratory option helps to take the clinical edge off dilator use by making the focus on pleasure as well as training.

Because many women experience sensory sensitivity after chemotherapy, Fantasy Gifts recommends non-flavored and unscented lubricants and massage oils. System Jo All in One Sensual Massage Glide is an unscented, silicone-based massage oil. Its highly concentrated formula can also be used as a personal lubricant.

Of course, the biggest complaint sexual complaint among breast cancer survivors was lack of sexual desire. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill for that (unless the government finally decides to start funding research for female libido-enhancing drugs - but that's a different blog). Loss of libido is tied to so many breast cancer issues: body self-esteem, lack of estrogen, pain, vaginal dryness, genital fatigue. Our best advice is to try some of the above measures, see what works for you and what does not. If your libido does not increase, have a frank, open discussion with your medical provider. There is currently a low-dose topical estrogen cream that has met with positive results.

Angelina Jolie remains one of the sexiest women in the world. Her sexiness has nothing to do with her breasts - it's her confidence, her inner and outer beauty, and her sexuality. To all breast cancer survivors, Fantasy Gifts is here to help - and we salute you!

Rabbits are a Girl's Best Friend

One of our favorite questions at our Fantasy Gifts' stores is, "do you carry the rabbit?" The question amuses us because the natural follow-up is, "which one?" We carry about 20 rabbit style vibrators in our stores, but there have to be at least a hundred on the market right now. Rabbit vibrators have been around for decades, however, it wasn't until "Sex and the City" featured Charlotte and her rabbit vibrator that the market really went main-stream. The rabbit vibrator that Charlotte used was the Vibratex Rabbit Habit. This is the Cadillac of rabbit vibrators, perfect for an Upper East Side Girl. Made of elastomer, it is manufactured in Japan. For anyone who favors a Toyota over a Ford - you'll know why Japanese motors are preferable! It is actually illegal in Japan to make a sex toy that looks like a penis. Hence, the rabbit was born!

Contrary to popular belief, rabbits come in all shapes and sizes. When choosing a rabbit vibrator, first decide what material you would like. Metal rabbits, while cold to start, warm up with your body and are hypo-allergenic. The cheapest rabbits are made of TPE, which stands for thermo-plastic elastomer. We like California Exotic's My First Jack Rabbit. If you've never tried a rabbit vibrator before, this is a great one to start with. The price point is reasonable, at under $40.00 It also has a slighter slimmer shaft so it's not too scary the first time out!

Once you've warmed up to your rabbit vibrator and you've decided you like it, the next step is to move up the California Exotic Waterproof Jack Rabbit. This vibrator is made of PVC which is a supple, jelly-like material. The cap secures so it can be used in or out of the water. The multi-function shaft features variable speed and the rabbit ears have three speeds for intense clitoral stimulation. At bit pricier at just under $70.00, this is our number one selling vibrator.

Looking for something different? Try Pipedream Icicles No. 16. This is the first ever vibrating glass rabbit. It has 10 patterns of pulsation and the bullet can be used without the glass. Glass vibrators are hypoallergenic, nonporous and body safe. If cared for properly, they can last a lifetime. Run the rabbit under warm water or place it in the microwave to heat things up. Alternatively, chill it under cold water or put it in the freezer for a cool sensation. Since glass is nonporous, cleanup is a snap. Use toy cleaner and warm water or put it in the dishwasher for a worry-free wash after the fun.

One of the best ways to experience the joy of a rabbit is with the Wand Essentials Rabbit Attachment. This little bunny fits onto what's already known as a girl's best friend - your Hitachi Magic Wand. Combine the super-strength of the Hitachi's Magic Wand rechargeable, Japanese motor with this attachment and you'll soon be squirming with pleasure!

Finally, when you've really decided you love rabbits and are ready to make a significant investment in your pleasure, our favorite is Vanity by Jopen VR 10. Made of smooth, firm silicone, it is water-safe. The rechargeable stimulator has synchronous dual vibrating motors plus independent rotation. It is ergonomically designed for the natural contours of a woman and has powerful, independent motors in the stimulator, shaft and rotating head. Waterproof, whisper quiet, rechargeable, this vibrator has it all and also comes with a limited 10 year warranty. A significant return on your investment for under $200.00.

Whether you're alone or with a partner, a rabbit is one of the best-selling sex toys of all time. Stop in to your favorite store or look on-line for your new cuddly rabbit friend!

Spring Clean Your Sex Life!

I don't know about you, but once March hits I can feel the change instantly. Spring is in the air. We might still see the occasional snowflake or experience a chilly day but there's no doubt about it, there's been a change in seasons. The days are getting longer, the nights less frigid. There are even a few flowers popping up.

What is it about a change of seasons that makes you want to clean? Something about boxing up all those sweaters makes you want to take stock of what you have, toss out the old and bring in the new. This time of year we clean out cabinets, wash windows and scrub baseboards. Perhaps it's time to spring clean our sex lives as well.

Not all spring cleaning takes place in the bedroom but it is an ideal place to start. First, pack away the flannel sheets and heavy comforters. Bring in some new, fresh sheets and duvets. Spray your sheets with a new lovely scent. We like Dona by Jo Linen Spray. This aphrodisiac infused spray will help you redefine the bedroom and give your linens and sheets a sensual touch.

While you're adding fresh sheets and linens, why not clean out the lingerie drawer. First, start with the panty drawer. Throw out those nasty old panties that no longer fit, are stained, or are just plain ugly. Move on to your bras. A bra cannot withstand electric washing for longer than six months - a year tops if you don't wear it often. Try all of your bras on and get rid of the ones that are no longer flattering. If you've had a weight gain/loss recently, you'll probably need to be resized. Most lingerie stores will measure you for free.

Now look at your sex toys. Sex toys should be stores in a cool, dry place away from pets (and kids!) and free from dirt and dust. Silicone toys should not be stored together as they can cause each other to break down. Inspect all of your toys. Look for breakage and wear and tear. Toys that are corroded or mildewed need to be tossed. Inspect the battery packs too. Ideally you should remove your batteries after each use but if you haven't check to make sure the batteries are in good order. Clean your toys thoroughly. We like to use Wet Keep it Clean Anti Bacterial Foaming Toy Wash. A little bit goes a long way and the foaming action allows for targeted application and a deep clean. Keep It Clean™ Toy Wash will not harm most toy materials including rubber, silicone, latex, realistic materials, jelly rubber, plastic, metal, or glass.

Ben Wa 101

Ben Wa Balls have been around since about 500 A.D. But although they have been a constant staple in adult stores since, well since adult stores were created, it took a little phenomenon known as "Fifty Shades of Grey" to spur sales into the stratosphere.

Ben Wa balls are a very simple concept. As soon as the cave man invented a wheel, they were probably looking for a way to insert small spherical objects into a woman's vagina. Not much is really known about their invention but the use of ben wa balls were discovered by Western travelers to the Orient and documented as early as the end of the sixteenth century.

Ben Wa balls are also known as love balls and pleasure balls. Ben Wa balls were originally meant to provide the man with extra pleasure during intercourse however some creative lover quickly discovered that they had a positive effect on women as well. The feeling of balls floating freely in the vagina and constantly massaging the vaginal walls caused intense sexual arousal.

Thanks to modern science, it is now known that Ben Wa balls are excellent at strengthening the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle (a hammock-like bone that stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx or tail bone, forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs). The act of strengthening the PC muscle are commonly called Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are recommended for women who recently had childbirth to restore vaginal muscle tone and help strengthen a weak bladder. It has been proven that the strength of the PC muscles was directly related to the intensity of an orgasm. Wearing Ben Wa balls for a few hours every day strengthens the vaginal sphincter and many men and women report intense sensations if the woman squeezes her vaginal muscles tightly around her partner's penis during intercourse.

Ben Wa Balls are the best and easiest way to exercise the PC muscles because the vagina is forced to flex in order to hold the balls inside. Additionally, when the muscles are flexed, blood rushes to that area increasing sexual arousal. Ben Wa balls are not meant to bring an orgasm, but rather work as a slow tease, keeping the woman in a constant state of arousal.

Using Ben Wa Balls is very simple, but can take some practice. The size of the Ben Wa balls is very important. If you have had a vaginal birth or are a larger woman, purchase a larger size of Ben Wa Balls. This will help to ensure the Ben Wa Balls do not fall out in the grocery store! Also, determine the material you want your Ben Wa Balls made out of. There are several different types.

Pipedream Ben Wa Balls are small and classic. Made of metal and gold in color, they are only .75" in diameter.
Pipedream Icicles No. 41 are perfect for the first-time Ben Wa wearer. Made of Borosilicate Glass, they are 1" in diameter.The most popular and modern version of the traditional Ben Wa Balls is the Pipedream Classic Duo Tone Balls. They have a small ball that jiggles independently inside the larger ball, a feeling you will certainly notice!

Strap-Ons are Hot!

One of our hottest selling Valentine items surprised even me. We've all seen trends come and go. Fifty Shades of Grey made bondage acceptable and cool. Anal play has been coming into its own. And I'll never forget the year of the ball-gag Christmas. We literally sold out of every ball gag we had in stock - for Christmas! Go figure!

But this Valentine's day, there was one consistent seller that crossed all lines. It was bought by women for men, by men for women, by women for women and by men for men. It was not sold to just older buyers but to younger buyers. What was the must-have item on February 14? A strap-on harness, of course!

If you're not familiar with the phenomenon, let us explain. A strap-on dildo is designed to be worn by both men and women to provide penetration both vaginally and anally. At Fantasy Gifts, you can purchase a set, with the strap and dildo sold together, such as the Lucid Dream Vac-u-Lock Harness and Dong No. 9, or just a strap alone, such as
Sportsheets Bare as You Dare Harness.

Lucid Dream Vac-U-Lock Harness + Dong No. 9

Strap-ons are used for a variety of reasons. A heterosexual couple can use a strap-on harness and dildo to prolong sex. If the man wears the strap-on he can penetrate a woman vaginally without using his penis. He can also have his hands free to receive stimulation from either a vibrator or his partner. He can also use a strap-on harness that provides prostate stimulation.

For men suffering from erectile dysfunction, a hollow strap-on such as the Fetish Fantasy Vibrating 7" Hollow Strap On is a great option. There's a non-vibrating option too in the Fetish Fantasy Elite 7" Hollow Strap-On.

Pegging is a popular form of anal play. Pegging is when a woman penetrates her partner anally. This term usually applies to women who peg men in order for the man to receive prostate stimulation. The Sportsheets New Cummers Strap-On Kit is consistently one of our best-sellers. The slim 5" dildo is perfect for beginners.

For women-to-women sex, women can choose to penetrate their partner either anally or vaginally by using a strap-on harness and dildo system. The Pipedream Fantasy Fetish Elite Series comes in either pretty pink or passionate purple and is available in sizes from 4.5" insertable length to 7" insertable length. You also have the option of a vibrating or non-vibrating dildo.

Sportsheets Menage a Trois for Two features a double penetration harness and dildo set designed for even penetration.

You also have the option of purchasing a strap-on harness alone. At Fantasy Gifts we carry a number of strap-on harnesses, but our latest addition has been the Fetish Fantasy Elite Series from Pipedream Products. These products are available in three styles: the Fetish Fantasy Elite Universal Beginners Harness, the Fetish Fantasy Elite Universal Breathable Harness and the Fetish Fantasy Elite Univeral Heavy Duty Harness. Whether you are just beginning to experiment with strap-ons or you need something to withstand rugged, extreme play, the Pipedream Fetish Fantasy Elite Series has a strap-on for you. Best of all, there is fully compatible line of silicone dildos so you never have to worry about achieving the perfect fit!

If you are interested in trying a strap-on, stop by any Fantasy Gifts store and speak to one of our knowledgeable sales staff. They will be happy to assist you in choosing the right size and type of strap-on harness for you and your partner.

Help for Erectile Dysfunction & Other Problems

A new study finds that the erectile-dysfunction drug Cialis can help other little-discussed male sexual problems, too. It turns out that while you're in separate tubs (how sexy is that?), a new study has found that found that men with erectile or prostate difficulties who took Cialis also had improvements in their problems with ejaculating and achieving orgasm, even when their erectile dysfunction was minor.

As men age, they can become affected by slower or non-existent ejaculation. Unfortunately, many insurance companies are no longer providing coverage or have limited coverage for erectile-dysfunction. Viagra can cost between $35.00 - $65.00 a pill. So what's a hot-blooded male to do?

First, stop into any Fantasy Gifts store. Our employees are trained to deal with any questions you might have. We've heard everything, so there's no way to embarrass or shock us. But we can help you with everything from problems with your prostate to an inability to take pharmaceuticals.

If you are looking for a magic pill, we suggest Stiff 4 Hours. Stiff 4 Hours is a culmination of several years of research, which resulted in the development of a product for men that improves their sexual experiences. The aim was to reduce the number of negative side effects that are often accompanied with prescription medicine male enhancers. As with any OTC drugs, please check with your physician before taking.

For a drug-free approach, the answer may be as simple as an erection enhancer. An erection enhancer constricts the blood flow to the penis resulting in a longer and stronger erection.

A penis pump is a cylinder that is fitted over the penis, with a manual or motorized pump to create a partial vacuum around the penis, engorging it as blood is drawn in. As vacuum increases, the pressure within the blood vessels of the penis increases as well; excessive vacuum causes vascular damage.

Penis pumps may be used to temporarily overcome symptoms of impotence, but do not cure the condition: a tourniquet-like ring must be applied to keep the blood trapped within the penis, otherwise the erection will immediately subside. Pumps may work even if there is nerve or vascular damage preventing a natural erection, but excessive or prolonged use (hours) will cause permanent harm.

Pumping must be done very carefully to avoid serious injury: over-enthusiastic pumping can burst blood vessels and form blisters.

Joseph Harryhill, a University of Pennsylvania urologist who treats many men with sexual problems, said the onslaught of drug-company advertising may have made men more comfortable talking about erectile dysfunction, but they still find it embarrassing to discuss ejaculation and orgasm. And while many men have no problem achieving an erection, they still find it difficult to climax. Women also may feel threatened by their man's inability to climax, wrongly feeling that it their fault and they are not attractive enough. Any man who cannot achieve climax in under 30 minutes should seek medical help. But know there are many resources at your disposal - don't be afraid to ask!

Top Sexy Valentine Gift Ideas

Valentine's Day is a mere 10 days away and the staff at Fantasy Gifts has been busy compiling their top sexy valentine day ideas. Forget the roses and chocolates - flowers die and chocolate makes you fat. Let's get back to celebrating what this day is really about - romantic love. And how best to show it?

1. Cupid Says . . . Paint Your Partner Chocolate

Chocolate is a traditional Valentine's Gift, but this time put a sexy twist on it. Fantasy Gifts' Chocolate Body Paint is hand-made in Vermont by a chocolatier and is yummy on everything from ice cream, to your partner's most intimate spots. Best of all, you'll work off all of the calories!

2. Cupid Says . . . If you Can't Be with the One You Love, Love the One You're With!
Sometimes the best Valentine's Day are the one's spent alone. And the Thrill by We Vibe is designed specifically for those occasions! The waterproof, rechargeable vibrator is scientifically designed to provide intense stimulation for your G-spot and clitoris. The revolutionary new design makes it possible for a woman to experience both G-spot and clitoral stimulation simultaneously while using a personal vibrator.
The We Vibe Thrill's design allows a woman to experiment with different amounts of pressure and intensity in the vibration patterns. The waterproof aspect of the We Vibe Thrill means that it can safely be used in the bathtub for solo fun.

3. Cupid Says . . . Rub My Duckie!
Rubber Duckie, you're the one, you make bath time so much fun! Oh so stylish in a removable feather boa and glamorous Swarovski crystal, I Rub My Duckie - SweetHeart exudes feminine charm. Don’t let the sweet expression fool you, however, this little Femme Fatale offers amazingly strong, pocket rocket-like, vibrations. And like all well-bred Duckies, she is waterproof, so she will delight your honey in the bed, bath or wherever!
I Rub My Duckie® Sweetheart

4. Cupid Says . . . Have Kinky Sex!
Even if you haven't gone all 50 Shades of Grey, these silk ties are perfect for beginners. The soft silk securely restrains your lover without discomfort, making them the perfect binding tool for any occasion. The silk retains your own fragrance (from being worn around your neck or over your hair) creating an erotic essence to enhance your intimate encounter.
Fetish Fantasy Series Limited Edition Grey Silk Ties

Fetish Fantasy Series Limited Edition Grey Silk Ties

5. Cupid Says . . . Show Your Love with the Lover Vibe!
The perfect Valentine's present! The most exciting feature of this Love Vibe is the 10 different functions. With the press of a button, you can switch from a slow, more gentle vibration, to a high speed, strong vibration, to pulsating, or thumping, or a high energy oscillating sensation. This firm sex toy is waterproof and the shaft of the vibrator is mildly bendable. So bend and sweat, curl and crawl around, and feel this vibrator move with you and tease you all the way to ecstasy. The stylish bottom is creatively designed for easy holding, and non-slip gripping.

6. Cupid Says . . . Give an Amazing Heart Massage.
What better way to say I Love You than by giving the Amazing Heart Massage?
Lover's Choice The Amazing Hot Heart Massager

Lover's Choice The Amazing Hot Heart Massager

Massage can help increase the intimacy between you and your partner. The Amazing Hot Heart Massager builds on that intimacy by adding extra warmth to your touch – and you can use it again and again. The heart-shaped massager comes complete with a guide that provides mood setting tips, suggestions on how to initiate intimate massage, four romantic massage techniques as well as clear instructions on how to reuse the massager. Available as the original, or printed with "I Love You" or "XOXO" on the massager.

7. Cupid Says . . . Warm up with Wet Warming Lubricant!
Baby it's cold outside, warm up with Wet Warming Lubricant and turn up the heat! Gently heats on contact and warms with motion…Blow on it, it gets warmer. WET® WARMING is silky smooth, long lasting, water soluble, harmless if ingested, and latex friendly. Lick it and feel the heat between your sheets!

Wet Warming Gel Lubricant

8. Cupid Says . . . Tease & Please Me!
Have the type of girl who needs something soft and cuddly before she can be bad and naughty? Amour is a romantic collection of sexy kits designed to put a spark into your relationship, or start a new one! Featuring a cuddly teddy bear, a powerful push button micro-stimulator, a black lace G-string with adjustable satin ties, sensuous feathers, and secret pocket for micro-stimulator
Amour™ Tease & Please ® Romance Kit™

9. Cupid Says . . . Turn Me On! On Natural Arousal Oil for Her

Hands Down, On Natural Arousal Oil is one of our best-sellers! This product produces several sensations, starting with an immediate warming effect, then followed by an electrical vibration tingling effect that actually pulses. All of this causes arousal and a moistening effect. The combined effect of this product causes orgasms that are quicker, longer-lasting, and more frequent. Some women have described this as a "3rd level” of orgasm – which no one has experienced prior to this.

10. Cupid Says . . . Warm Me Up, Cool Me Down.

Icicles No. 32

Elegant, upscale, and hand-crafted with amazing attention to detail, this luxurious line of glass massagers will leave you breathless. Each hand-blown Icicle glass wand is sleek, unique, and made to play hard. The hypoallergenic glass is nonporous and body safe, and when cared for properly, is designed to last a lifetime. Run the wand under warm water or place it in the microwave to heat things up. Chill it under cold water or put it in the freezer for a cool sensation.

50 Shades of Grey Parody Being Sued

You new it had to happen. In September, based on a phenomenal fan following, Smash Productions decided to make a parody of the book 50 Shades of Grey by + E.L.James. Unfortunately for Smash Productions, they did not own the rights to 50 Shades of Grey. Those rights are owned by Universal Studios. So quicker than you can say "inner goddess," Universal Studios sued Smash Productions for copyright infringement.

Porn parodies have been around almost as long as pornography has been. Whatever your favorite genre, porn has found a way to parody it. Tolkien fan? There's "Whore of the Rings." Love Kevin Spacey? How about "American Booty." "A Tale of Two Titties," is a must-see for any English major. Even classic movies aren't safe in "Titty, Titty, Bang, Bang."

We could go on. The gay market nailed it with "Raiders of the Lost Arse" and "Whorry Potter" but "Edward Penishands" just seems a little too easy. How did all of these movies manage to get away it without being sued? Simple, other than the titles, the actual movies bear almost no resemblance to the original work. Sure Whorry Potter is a boy wizard but beyond him creating a little "magic" in the bedroom, there's hardly a muggle in sight.

Parody is defined as a literary or artistic work that imitates the characteristic style of an author or a work for comic effect or ridicule. The problem with the 50 Shades of Grey is there is no comic effect or ridicule. Due to the adult nature of the book, Smash Productions lifted everything straight from the original work. They didn't even bother to change the dialogue.

Take the following as an example:
When an inexperienced college student, Anastasia Steele, meets an extremely wealthy and handsome young business tycoon, Christian Grey, a whirlwind romance encompassing the kinkiest of pleasures soon ensues. Christian, (Ryan Driller) takes the inexperienced virgin Anastasia, (Allie Haze) into a world BDSM roll playing. Anastasia is completely swept up and scared as she has never experienced anything like this. She spent her last four years reading English literature while living vicariously through her outgoing roommate Kate (Alexis Ford). What made her charming prince like this? Was it the training in masochism he received at the hands of an older woman Mrs. Robinson (Julia Anne)? How many shades of the object of her love must she push through to find true love?
This description did not come from the book, it came directly from the box cover.

While parodies have long been protected by the First Amendment, Universal Studios claims, "By lifting exact dialogue, characters, events, story, and style from the Fifty Shades trilogy, Smash Pictures ensured that the first XXX adaptation was, in fact, as close as possible to the original works," the 31-page complaint states.
"Beginning with the first XXX Adaptation's opening scene and continuing throughout the next 2½ hours of the film, Smash Pictures copies without reservation from the unique expressive elements of the Fifty Shades trilogy, progressing through the events of 'Fifty Shades of Grey' and into the second book, 'Fifty Shades Darker.' The first XXX adaptation is not a parody, and it does not comment on, criticize, or ridicule the originals. It is a rip-off, plain and simple."

Smash was originally going to release a sequel on January 10, 2013, however, that's not likely to happen. In fact, all remaining copies of Fifty Shades of Grey: a XXX Adaptation have been pulled from the market. What do you think? Blatant rip-off or protected speech? Stay tuned to see what the courts decide.