Sex Ed 101: Lubricants

It's Back to School Time!  Even if you don't have children heading off to school,  there's something about September 1st that leaves you longing for some extra knowledge about something, anything!

There's nothing like the first day of school when you start the year eager to learn, with your clean notebook and freshly sharpened pencil.  By December, you're over it.  Right now though, inspired by all the back to school specials in stores, we wanted to give you a quick overview on sex education, starting with Lube 101.

Fantasy Gifts believes that lubricant is an essential ingredient for any sexual encounter.  Whether you are alone, or with a partner, a satisfying, healthy sexual experience must include lubricant.  But which one and why?

The first factor to consider is why are you using a lubricant?  Believe it or not, different lubricants can enhance or diminish a sexual experience.  Are you using it alone or with a partner?  If you are using it alone, are you using it with a toy or without a toy?  Why does it matter?  Because if you are using a silicone toy or a latex condom, you must not use a silicone based lubricant, like Pjur Eros Original Bodyglide, because it will break down the silicone material.  This is not only bad for your silicone based sex toy but can be downright dangerous when you're talking about a latex condom.  Try a water-based lubricant like System Jo H2O Personal Lubricant.  This high-quality, water based lubricant reactivates when you add more moisture to it so it will never become dry and tacky.

The second factor to consider is your own body.  What sensitivities does your own body have?  If you are prone to yeast infections, we do not recommend using a flavored lubricant.   While flavored lubricants cannot cause a yeast infection, the sorbitol which provides the flavoring can feed an already existing yeast infection.  If you are looking for a different sensation without the sorbitol, try a warming or cooling water based lubricant like Wet Synergy.

If you prefer a product that is made with only natural or organic ingredients, try System JO Organic Lubricant.  This lubricant is 100% natural certified USDA organic.  It is made with aloe vera and acai making it silky smooth and long lasting.  It is condom and silicone toy compatible.  Best of all, it is glycerin and paraben free.

The third factor to consider is what experience are you hoping to enhance?  If you anticipate oral sex (and do not have a yeast infection as discussed above) then we love the flavors of System JO H2O Flavored Lubricants.  Available in vanilla, mint, tangerine, apple, strawberry, cherry, raspberry, and pomegranate, there's a flavor for every taste!  If you want to warm it up or cool it down, we like the Wet Synergy mentioned above.  If you are going for anal play, you must have an anal based lubricant.  The viscosity is thicker, making it perfect to protect the anus which does not produce its own moisture.  Our favorite is System JO Anal H2O Personal Lubricant.

Whatever your desired outcome, a lubricant will enhance it!

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Why 50 Shades of Grey?

For those of you who have been living under a rock for the past week, the trailer for the movie 50 Shades of Grey was just released with much fanfare!  Not only was the trailer premiered on the The Today Show, but in just over a week the trailer has garnered over 13 million views on You Tube.  So what is it about this book that has inspired, to quote to the trailer, a "worldwide phenomena?"

To be honest, we're not quite sure.  All due respect to E.L. James, she certainly didn't invent erotic fiction nor did she pen it particularly well.  Erotic fiction has been around since words were invented.  From ancient Greece to William Shakespeare, better writers than E.L. James put their erotic fantasies down on paper and none of them felt the urge to use the term "inner goddess" even once, much less 150 times.

Perhaps it's because E.L. James started with familiar, popular characters and built on them.  For those of you who don't know (because you've been living under that proverbial rock) "50 Shades of Grey" was originally written as a piece of fan fiction based on the popular Twilight Series by Stephenie Meyer.  Of course, those books were hardly great literature either, but they struck a chord with young, female readers who loved the idea of a strong, wealthy, handsome protagonist who saw the beauty in a shy, awkward girl with a serious self-esteem issue.

Whatever the reason, no one predicted the frenzy that would soon surround these books.  Vendors were soon selling out of Ben Wa balls, women were openly reading erotic fiction on the beach and the phrase "mommy porn" was born (or at least took on a completely different meaning!).

At Fantasy Gifts we couldn't be more thrilled that this book has allowed millions of people to shed some of their sexual inhibitions and encouraged them to become more sexually adventurous.  Anything that allows the topic of human sexuality to become more mainstream and openly discussed is a welcome change from the previously held notion that sex is a dirty, taboo subject best left to back alleys and seedy book stores.  Fantasy Gifts has been in business for 35 years and has always strove to make sexual health and wellness not only an acceptable topic, but a necessary topic.  Humans are sexual beings and thank God the mainstream media is finally acknowledging that.  Even the controversy surrounding the book, ("BDSM Advocates Worry About 50 Shades of Grey Sex) means we are finally having more open discussions about what it means to be in a consensual, BDSM relationship versus an abusive relationship.  Was Anastasia Steele a willing sub or was she a victim of domestic violence?  Discuss, discuss, discuss!

Certainly the book has encouraged people to become more adventurous.  No one needs to invest in a Red Room of Pain (how would you hide that from the kids anyhow?) but a little light bondage/restraint can be great fun.  The 50 Shades of Grey Toy Collection has just been released and contains everything from Soft Limits Deluxe Wrist Ties to a Hard Limits Restraint Kit and everything in between.  But more about the collection in another blog.  Between now and the movie's release on Valentine's Day in 2015, we'll fill you in on other items in the collection and products from other vendors that we love that will help you explore that lifestyle portrayed in 50 Shades of Grey.

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Celebrate the Fourth with a Bang! (Literally)

Ready or not, it's coming!  The fourth of July.  While some may argue that celebrating our nation's independence from British rule is one of the unsexiest holidays ever - we completely disagree!  July is summer - hot and sexy!  Free yourself from social constrictions and celebrate with a bang!

Most people probably don't think much about sex in colonial times - heaving bosoms aside, all those clothes and social mores must have put a damper on sexual freedom.  However, the ironic thing is that in many ways, we are more Puritanical about sex today than we were back then.  According to Richard Goodbeer's Sexual Revolution in Early America, most Colonists had a pretty liberal view about sexuality.  Because there was no expectation of privacy, Americans were exposed to sex early and often.  It was generally understood that sex was normal and healthy and therefore should not be concealed, but celebrated in bawdy books, songs and stories.

Fantasy Gifts NJ believes the best way to see fireworks is together.  The following products can be used alone but when used in partnership with each other it creates an even more explosive experience.  

System JO 2 to Tango Pleasure Kit for Couples:

The Dance that Only the Two can Dance!   This products creates the perfect union of prolonging and stimulating personal lubricant kit for women and for men.  This product contains a formula for women to enhance & stimulate, provide heightened sensation and enhanced gratification.  The formula for men is intended to prolong & excite!  The result is harder, stronger and prolonged lovemaking!   

ON Power Glide for Him and ON Arousal Oil for Her

 

ON Arousal is the most revolutionary female arousal product on the market - perfect for the fourth of July! This shockingly powerful botanical formula creates a warm and extremely unique buzzing sensation that awakens the nerve endings, increases blood flow and makes a woman feel more sensation than ever before!  ON Power Glide for him naturally boosts his performance and increases his sex drive.  The combination of these two products will make for an explosive holiday! 

Forta for Men  is 100% all natural supplements designed to maximize the human body’s potential for arousal and blood flow.  Forta for Men is a new remarkable fast acting all natural sexual enhancement product that makes the most of a man’s natural potential, allowing him to fortify his sex life naturally.   Once Forta For Men has been consumed an erection usually takes place within 45 minutes, and the effects can last 2 to 3 days.

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How to Really Celebrate Father's Day

Father's Day is approaching and although you may be tempted to get back at him for the lack of imagination he showed you on Mother's Day - don't!  After all, no one could possibly live up to the hype that surrounds Mother's Day - it's the Hallmark equivalent of Valentine's Day almost -except with zero benefit to him!  Father's Day however, only takes up 1/3 the amount of greeting card space and seems to suffer from the notion that all men want to do on Father's Day is drink beer and play golf.

Assuming your man is one of the millions that don't want to drink beer and play golf - how else should you celebrate?  Let's face it - men are very simple creatures.  It takes very little to make them happy.  Unlike Mother's Day, they don't need a card full of sappy sentiment nor do they want the perfect present of jewelry, flowers and chocolate (you can see why Mother's Day is a lot like Valentine's Day).  All they really need to make them happy this Father's Day is a mind-blowing orgasm.

Yes, yes, I know, you do a lot throughout the year and you'd like a mind-blowing orgasm once a year too.  Well tough, this day is about him.  And if you do it right, I'm sure he'll return the favor.  So buy yourself some sexy lingerie.  No need to spend a fortune, it won't stay on for too long anyway.  And don't worry about how you look in it - he really doesn't care.  He'll think you look good in anything slutty no matter how many rolls of fat are sticking out.  Really, the gold standard in buying lingerie should be if you wouldn't be caught dead in it - he'll probably love it.

Next, foreplay.  Don't get too carried away.  The average sexual experience only lasts an average of 3 minutes.  You don't want all your hard work and planning to go to waste.  Don't bother with scented candles, they'll only make him sneeze.  Maybe cue up a good erotic movie.  Remember, men are visual creatures.  The story line does not matter.  After a few minutes, you should be good to go.

Finally, the mind-blowing orgasm part.  Hate to break it to you ladies, but it's a blow job.  It's really all he wants for Father's Day - so why not just give it to him.  He'll be so grateful.  According to Marcy Michaels in her book Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex, even mediocre blow jobs make men happy.  So unless you have an unfortunate tendency to bite, it's very hard to perform an unsuccessful blowjob. But this is Father's Day - we're not shooting for mediocre.  Remember the standard is mind-blowing.  So how is mind-blowing accomplished?  Start with simply paying attention to him.  You know the saying that foreplay begins at breakfast?  That only applies to women.  For him, start the moment by focusing solely on him.  No distracting television, no worrying that the kids are going to walk him, no interrupting in the middle to wonder if you paid the mortgage bill.  This is all about him.  So kiss him, look at him, tell him how much you love him and how you still find him sexy.  Pay attention to his whole body, not just his penis.  We'll get to that in a minute.  But for just a few minutes, enjoy all of him from the top of his scalp to the tip of his toes.

Next, focus on his goods.  But not too quickly.  There's more down there than just his penis.  Stroke his perineum, his balls before gently taking him in your mouth.  And remember that men are visual creatures - maintain eye contact.  Act like this is the best experience you've ever had.  Use some flavored lubricants if you like (this is the one instance where you can think about your preference).  Warm up by running your lips around his penis - avoid the head at first.  When you're ready, take him into your mouth slowly and massage his balls simultaneously.  Don't forget his perineum - it's a very sensitive area.  Finally, use your hands or a tool like the Doc Johnson Good Head Helping Head to stroke him while engaging him in your mouth.  And don't forget to swallow - it's Father's Day after all!

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How to Celebrate Oral Sex Day

Did you know that June 9 is Oral Sex Day (6-9, get it?).  How better to celebrate this day than with amazing oral sex!  Oral Sex is so much more than just a blow job or cunnilingus.  Done correctly, it can give you the most mind-blowing orgasm you have ever experienced.  In honor of the true 6-9 day, we are going to give you step by step instructions on how to correctly perform in this position.

Step 1:  Keep it Clean.  We all know what goes on down there and how close our genital areas are to other, shall we say, malodorous areas.  Nothing will kill the mood faster than catching a whiff of anything less than sanitary.  So please, before you begin, make sure all exit and off ramps are clean and pleasant.  Take a shower or bubble bath together to set the mood.

Step 2:  Shaving.  The issue of whether to shave or not to shave is actually a hot topic button.  While some prefer the genital area to be smooth and hair-free, others prefer a natural jungle.  Whatever your preference, make sure your partner is on the same page as well.  This is a duet, not a solo.  Shaving your partner can actually be a sexy form of foreplay, try using a product like Coochy Creme which is specifically formulated to use on coarse pubic hair.

Step 3: Pick your position.  Wait, you mean 69 doesn't mean just one position?  Of course not, this is sex people - there are about as many variations on the 69 position as there are on the standard missionary position - nothing's standard anymore!  According to the book Fifty Shades Of Oral Pleasure by Marisa Bennett, there's the Reverse Hookup where you use any padded surface and he lies down with her on top.  The Lazy 69 is a sideways 69 and you lie in bed together.  The Massage Envy takes an erotic massage to a whole new level - make sure you have plenty of massage oil on hand.  Downward Dog calls for the receiver to lie face down on the bed and present their rear for oral stimulation.  There's also the Strong Man which, obviously, needs a very strong man to support her weight while both partners are vertical, but she is upside down.  Very dangerous if you don't know what you're doing!

Step 4:  Add your accessories.  Oral Sex is not complete without adding in some oral enhancements.  Whether it's a Good Head Gel, a BJ Blast or even just a flavored lip balm, no 69 encounter is complete without your favorite flavor.  So go ahead and celebrate 6-9 Day!

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Bachelorette Party Favors

Bachelorette Season is upon us and if you are one of the lucky bridesmaids, our condolences!  Not only do you have to pay for a dress you will never wear again, you also have to help plan for (and pay!) for the bridal shower and the bachelorette party!

Luckily, you can do some wonderful, creative things on a budget.  It just takes a little planning and a few dollars.  Even if you are not crafty at all, there are still easy ways to look like the Martha Stewart of hen parties.  All it requires is a trip to the dollar store and your local Fantasy Gifts.

Below are some examples of some party favors we quickly we put together.  They each cost under $10 to assemble.

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Here Comes the Bride - Decor for the Bachelorette Party

It's Bridal Season!  At Fantasy Gifts, this season is right up there with Christmas and Valentine's Day!  Let's face it, you simply cannot get decent bachelorette novelties at Party City.  Whether you're looking for simple and tasteful or naughty and nasty, Fantasy Gifts has you covered!  Bachelorette Parties encompass so many novelties - there's tableware and decor, novelties, edibles, games and clothing to name a few.  So to make things easy, let's break this blog down and just focus on decor first.

I'll be honest - you can probably get simple and tasteful at Target or Party City.  But even if that's the route you're going, you can still throw in a little bling to keep the party interesting! Start with your color scheme.  Most bachelorette decorations are pink - but don't let that define you.  Pick the bride's favorite colors.  You can stay bright and fun and avoid pink all together.  At Fantasy Gifts we have a significant lesbian population who thankfully are now able to marry in New Jersey.  We also have a number of older brides.  These groups tend to eschew anything pink or penis related.  No worries, although we do have your typical pink plates, we also feature plates with no penis' or pink in sight!  One of our favorite plates, the Let's Party Plates work well for a host of occasions and also have napkins and cups.

But let's face it, most brides do want the whole fun penis themed!  It's about the only time in your life you can feed you grandmother Penis Pasta Salad with Pecker Party Ware.  You can mix up some drinks in our Pecker Cocktail Shaker, throw in some Penis Ice Cubes and serve them up in the Sexy Bitch Pimp Cup.  Appetizers can be served using our Pecker Cocktail Picks.  And of course, no bachelorette party is complete without a giant Penis Cake topped with our Mini Pecker Candles and Pecker Cake Sprinkles.  Enjoy!

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Mothers Need Romance Too!

Listen up guys!  Sunday is Mother's Day!  While the day is traditionally devoted to the woman who gave you life, let's think for a moment about the woman who gave your children life.  After all, before she became a mother, she was your lover.  

Do you remember what your life was like before you had children?  When sex was a spontaneous act that didn't require as much scheduling as a White House briefing?  When the only reason you were too tired to have sex was because you were tired from having so much sex?  BC (before children) you could have morning sex, afternoon sex, late night sex.  You could have sex in the bedroom, the bathroom, the kitchen, the laundry room.  You could use loud sex toys, watch porn in the living room and moan as loud as you want to.  

Children certainly change everything.  But don't despair, you can still recapture romance without shipping your kids off to the babysitter.  First thing, set the mood.  We've all heard foreplay begins at breakfast.  So on Sunday morning, start off with breakfast in bed.  Bring in her favorite breakfast on a nice tray.  A flower from the backyard would be a nice touch.  And don't forget the card!  Most women deem a card more important than an actual gift.  Let her know that today is all about her.  

After the kids go to bed, the real celebration can begin.  First, set the stage.  Arrange the room with scented candles and strew the bed with rose petals.  Try our game Rose Petal Seductions which not only sets the stage, but also sets a fun, playful mood - perfect for romance!

Then give her a sensual massage.  Don't know how to give one?  Sinclair makes a great DVD entitled The Joy of Erotic Massage.  This DVD features real couples explicitly demonstrating both massage techniques and advanced methods to relax, arouse and satisfy!  Don't forget the massage oil.  We like Kama Sutra's Massage Oil in sweet almond or use an unscented massage oil.  Some candles turn into heated massage oils, like the Tantric Soy Massage Candle.  This luxurious massage candle melts into a silky, nourishing oil that will glide over skin as it fills the room with a warm, sexy scent.   

Next it's movie and a toy time!  Pop in a couple-friendly movie, like Digital Playground's Pirates Collector's Edition.  It's the movie everyone talks about and is the biggest epic in the history of adult films.  It has a story line and a touch of humor - perfect for both of you.  Follow up with a high quality, couples toy.  Our best-seller is the We Vibe 4. 

This is one remote you won't have to fight over!  Worn while making love, the We-Vibe 4 boasts more power, a fully waterproof design, a convenient wireless remote control, and a wireless charger base.  Best of all, it's whisper-quiet and super powerful.  By the time the evening ends, you'll remember why you got together in the first place and you'll recapture the romance of life before children.  Best of all,she'll owe you for Father's Day in June too!

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May is Masturbation Month!

What do 90% of men and 65% of women do on a regular basis but never admit to?  It's masturbate!  How  is it that something so normal and natural has become socially stigmatized?  Our guess is religion has something to do with it!  You can be sure as soon as Eve found the apple, Adam found his penis.  Masturbation has been found depicted in prehistoric cave paintings.  In Malta, a cave figure depicting a woman masturbating dates from 4 B.C.  Indians described it in the Kama Sutra.  Ancient Egyptians believed the god Atum created the universe by masturbating to ejaculation, and the ebb and flow of the Nile was attributed to the frequency of his ejaculations.  Egyptian Pharaohs were therefore required to masturbate ceremonially into the Nile.  Even as late as the 17th century nannies encouraged their male charges to masturbate before going to bed.

When did it all go wrong?  In 1716 the first "blog" or pamphlet entitled "Onania, or the Heinous Sin of Self-Pollution, and All Its Frightful Consequences, in Both Sexes, Considered: With Spiritual and Physical Advice to Those Who Have Already Injured Themselves by This Abominable Practice"  was published and distributed in London.  It offered letters and testimonials from men who allegedly were falling ill and dying from the effects of compulsive masturbation.  The pamphlet was so wildly popular, it was published over 60 times in several different languages.  It quickly spread to the New World where New Haven, Connecticut made masturbators eligible for the death penalty.  By the end of the 20th century, children were discouraged from masturbating by the use of bandaging or tying of their hands and genitals, covering their genitals with cages, sewing the foreskin shut, and electrical shock.  Girls were encouraged to have their clitoris removed to prevent them from masturbating.

It wasn't until Dr. Alfred Kinsey in the 1940s and 50s began researching and studying masturbation that it began to loose some of its social stigma.  The Kinsey Report published in 1948 found that masturbation was an instinctive behavior for both men and women.  By the 1980s parents were being told by their pediatricians that masturbation was normal and healthy.  However, it wasn't until 1994 that the masturbation debate became front page news.  That was the year the surgeon general of the United States, Dr. Joycelyn Elders, was forced to resign when she mentioned as an aside that masturbation should be included in school curriculum as  a safe and healthy practice.  By the way, the president who forced her to resign was none other than Chief Wanker, Bill Clinton!

Dr. Elders' forced resignation set off a firestorm in the gay community, among others.  As a direct protest to the resignation, Sexologist Carol Queen, with the help of San Francisco based sex store Good Vibrations, helped organize National Masturbation Day in 1995.  Their purpose was to protest against a culture which viewed masturbation negatively and deliberately excluded it from the formal education system.  It quickly extended to Masturbation Week and now the entire month of May is devoted to this activity.  There is now even a Masturbate-a-thon in which participants masturbate to raise money for charities while dispelling social taboos.  Philly has its own Masturbate-a-thon although it continues to be a source of outrage for the more conservative establishment.  Politcal Outcast Magazine actually declared Philly's masturbate-a-thon to be the death of our nation!  

In honor of Masturbation Month, Fantasy Gifts is offering a free lubricant with the purchase of any masturbator.  Whether its a disposable masturbator, the Fleshlight, Fantasy Gifts has something for every body to celebrate Masturbation Month!

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National Lingerie Day

Did you know National Lingerie Day is April 24th?  Don't worry if you didn't, most people are not aware of this "holiday." Which made us wonder?  Is National Lingerie Day a real holiday or just a made-up event?

To start, there actually is a difference between National Days and Awareness Days.  Awareness Days are usually health related and seek to raise awareness of various illnesses and diseases.  National Days are usually staged by commercial organizations to promote their products and services.  But who decides what day is a national day?  Does it require an act of Congress or can any entity just deem it "National Blow-Job and a Steak Day" (March 14 - really!).  

Apparently anyone can apply to the United Nations or their government to have their day formalized.  Unless the day is racist, sexist or otherwise hateful, it's generally accepted.  There's even a website where you can apply to have your day formalized by answering four simple questions and paying $300.00.  

The origin of National Lingerie Day is apparently the brainchild of the Intimate Apparel Council.  This industry group is made up of U.S. designers, brands and retailers.  Apparently in April 1989 they began promoting National Lingerie Week to "reaffirm the message that intimate apparel is fashion."  They wanted a week-long celebration of in-store promotions, unique prices and fit clinics.  Frederick's of Hollywood then picked up the torch and began promoting it as a special day in their stores and on their website.  

What't interesting to us at Fantasy Gifts is why more lingerie stores are not promoting this event.  The Intimate Apparel Council does not even mention it on their website anymore.  The top three lingerie retailers - Victoria's Secret, Wal-mart and J.C. Penney - are not even mentioning this day.  And even Frederick's of Hollywood, who started the craze, appears to not be celebrating it this year.  

According to Business Insider, the intimate apparel industry is a $29 billion global market.  The United States represents 30% of the global market and 20% of total apparel sales.  This is an National Day tailor-made to the intimate apparel industry and everyone is just ignoring it!  

Well, not us!  Come to any Fantasy Gifts store in South Jersey on April 24th and celebrate National Lingerie Day by picking out a free $5.95 panty with any lingerie purchase.  And let's get National Lingerie Day celebrated right up there with National Hairball Awareness Day - that's April 26th!  

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Celebrate Earth Day with Green Sex Toys!

Spring is here!  With all the trees budding, flowers blooming and bees buzzing, our thoughts naturally turn to the environment around us.  In Fantasy Gifts' over 30 years of business, we have seem many trends in sex toys come and go.  The green trend, however, looks like it's here to stay and we for one couldn't be happier!

Nothing is so personal as what you put in or on your body.  When sex toys first became mass-produced for popular consumption in the 1970's, they were primarily made out of hard ABS plastic.  This material is still readily available.  As sex toys evolved, so did consumer demand.  Customers started requested softer, more life-like materials.  The soft, pliable "jelly" type became a popular material for many vibrators, dildos and love dolls.  Made of some form of plastic, PVC plastics suppliers began to incorporate one or more members of a family of compounds calls phthalates.  

Phthalates are everywhere.  They are used in perfumes, hair sprays, plastic raincoats, carpet backing, paints, medical devices and many other items.  They are responsible for that "new car smell," which goes to show you how much plastic is in your car.  So if phthalates are so prevalent, how dangerous can they really be?  

A 2004 study by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention analyzed urine studies from 2,450 people ages six and older.  It found phthalate metabolites (left over phthalates) in over 75% of the subjects.  While we know phthalates are toxic in animals, it is not yet known how adversely phthalates affect humans.  It is believed that there may be a connection between phthalates and the human hormonal system.  Testing has shown that it many diminish fertility and negatively affect the liver and kidneys.  With so many green sex toy options on the market, why take any chances?  

Fantasy Gifts is proud to lead the green initiative and feature a wide range of phthalate-free sex toys.  One of our favorite lines is Pipedream Icicles.  Made of 100% borosilicate glass, it has no additives, allergens or chemical residue.  It will not break, chip or crack.  Best of all, most of them do not take any batteries.


Silicone is another great alternative for those consumers looking for a green sex toy.  Medical grade silicone is a chemically inert substance.  This means there are no toxic ingredients that can be gassed or leached from the substance.  Silicone is not toxic to aquatic plants or animals and does not have a negative effect on soil organisms.  Although it is not biodegradable, it can be recycled.  One of our top choices for a silicone product is the We Vibe 4.  Made of medical grade silicone, it is fully rechargeable, takes no batteries, and can be used during intercourse.

Just because a sex toy is made of a jelly-type plastic, does not mean that it contains phthalates.  More and more sex toy manufacturers are recognizing the potential health-hazards associated with phthalates and are voluntarily using other materials.  This is impressive because sex toys are not regulated by any governmental agency.  They are not required to limit any materials in their product, however, recognizing consumer's concerns, they are self-regulating.  The majority of Doc Johnson's products are made of sil-a-gel, which is anti-bacterial, non-toxic, latex, cadmium and phthalate free.  

Of course, there are always a few products containing phthalates on the market.  They are usually inexpensive and give off a clear odor (think new car smell again).  If you ever have any questions as to whether your products contain phthalates, you can always ask a clerk at Fantasy Gifts.  

Finally, be just as green with the lubricants and toy cleaners you use too!  System JO has a great line of organic lubricants and toy cleaners.  Certified organic by the USDA, the water based lubricant is made with aloe vera and acai, making it silky smooth and long lasting.  System JO Organic Toy Cleaner is an antibacterial, antifungal, antiviral cleaner that is alcohol free and free of petrochemicals such as parabens and glycerin.  So Go Green this Earth Day and all year long!

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Sexy Easter

At Fantasy Gifts, we truly believe that any holiday can turn into a sexy holiday with a little creative thinking.  Everyone thinks sexy stocking stuffers at Christmas and Valentine's Day is a no-brainer.  But why not think outside the box for Easter?  Easter is a perfect time to remind your mate that you still think they're hot.  Instead of limiting Easter to peeps and jelly beans, here are a few suggestions to make sure your love bunny keeps hopping down your trail!

The Easter basket is such an easy vessel to fill with sexy, romantic gifts.  Start with the plastic egg - the cheap ones you can buy at any store.  Instead of filling it with candy, fill it with pillow packs of lubricants.  They fit in easily and are much more fun to search for!

Easter is synonymous with chocolate.  We have a full selection of naughty, delicious chocolate in all your favorite anatomically correct body parts!  Or if you prefer, paint your partner in chocolate with Shunga Edible Body Paint.  Don't like chocolate?  Hott Products Edible Body Paint comes in a rainbow of colors and flavors, including passion fruit, pina colada, strawberry and cherry!  

The Tenga Egg is one of our favorite Easter products.  This cute little egg is actually a disposable male masturbator.  Available in six fun shapes and textures - the Tenga Egg is perfect for the man who seems to have everything!

Ever since "Sex and the City" put Vibratex Rabbit Habit on the map, the rabbit vibrator has become the most popular shape for vibrators.  It's now available at almost any price point and in a variety of materials.  One of our favorites is the Waterproof Jack Rabbit by California Exotic.  Available in pink or purple, it's made of PVC and it's completely waterproof so it can be used in the shower or bath, or out!

Finally, put some spring in your step and pair any piece of lingerie with a simple pair of bunny ears.  It's simple and easy, plus it's a great excuse to put the flannel pajamas away and break out the spring lingerie.

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April "Sex" in the Showers

April Showers are starting to fall.  All that rain automatically makes us think of Sportsheets Sex in the Shower - a great line of sex toy products specifically devoted to, what else, Sex in the Shower!  In order to encourage you to try Sex in the Shower, Fantasy Gifts is offering 25% off the entire line for the month of April.

Finally couples have more to rely on than the erratic placement of the soap dish, the unsteadiness of the faucet and the random height of the shower head to achieve sexual satisfaction in the tub or shower.  This product line has thought of everything.  The Dual Shower Head ensures neither you nor your partner will ever get cold.   It connects to your shower as a single unit but branches out into two individual heads.  The heads work as one unit, but there are four water-pressure options to choose from: both heads using a full-body spray; both in a pulsating massage; one full-body spray and one pulsating massage; or both heads giving a full-body spray with the pulsing massage jets in the center.

The Single Locking Suction Handle  is made of thick white plastic and suctions easily to most smooth surfaces, including glass, fiberglass, and tiles that are at least four inches across. When you’ve suctioned the handle to the shower wall, simply click the locking handle shut (you’ll hear it click) and you’re good to go.

The Dual Locking Suction Handle locks securely in place with two heavy-duty suction cups. They’ll stick to any smooth surface (glass, tiles over four inches wide, fiberglass, etc.), and once you’ve pressed them into place, you simply push down the levers on each end and they’ll stay there for as long as you want them to. To remove, just lift the levers and pull the cups up with the tiny rubber tabs sticking out at the sides.

TheSingle Locking Foot Rest  allows you to achieve previously impossible positions in your bath or shower. With its strong lever-activated suction cup and smooth waterproof design, you can have extra leverage, extra height and extra sensations within seconds.

For a stronger bond, try the Suction Handcuffs  The line also features Vibrating Sponge and a Vibrating Mesh Sponge. Remember, 25% off all Sex in the Shower products for the month of April, in-store at our Marlton and Turnersville, New Jersey locations and online at www.fantasygiftsnj.com.

Shower Sex and water play are a great way to be intimate and get clean at the same time!  Want to try it for free? Try this fun position: stand facing each other in the shower. Hug your partner as you wrap your left leg around his waist. He places his right hand under your thigh to keep you steady as he enters you. Meanwhile, his other hand is free to caress your face and run his fingers through your hair. What will your April showers bring you?

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March 14 is Steak and a BJ Day

In a country with hundreds of useless holidays (Talk Like a Pirate Day, anyone?), it's nice to finally see a holiday recognize two things that are so important to the men in this country - beef and blow jobs.

That the two are so utterly intertwined cannot be doubted.  It's like peanut butter and jelly, ham and cheese, or Angelina and Brad.  Steak and blow jobs are to men what wine and chocolate are to women - two things we simply cannot live without!

Americans consume, on average, 100 lbs of red meat a year and we spend over $142 billion annually on meat products.  According to a Finnish study, men eat more red meat than women.  So we know men have a vested interest in steaks.  And obviously, they have the only interest in blow jobs!  Hence a holiday only a man could create!

No one is quite sure of the origins of this holiday, but most sources agree you can blame a radio show host out of  Boston named Tom Birdsey.  You can tell a man created it because the holiday is simple, self-explanatory, requires no special gift or card, and the man gets everything out of it.  From it's small, humble, beginnings around 2002, it has now become a thing, garnering several websites, its own Twitter handle, a Facebook account, t-shirt and sticker promotions, and over 1 million hits on Google.

Never one to miss a holiday, especially one with sex as its basis, Fantasy Gifts NJ has gotten into the action by offering a free BJ Blast on March 14 with every $25.00 purchase!  So come on ladies - you got Valentine's Day - let's give this one to the  guys!  Celebrate Steak and a BJ Day on March 14th - he'll thank you for it!

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Penis Rings - Everyone's Best Friend

Penis ring, cock ring, erection enhancer, whatever you call them, this is the one sexual tool that will enhance anyone's sexual experience.  While a cock ring is one of the most popular sex toy products we sell, it is also one which can intimidate first time users.  To help set your mind at ease, we offer you what we call Cock Ring 101 with a Q&A by our Manager at Fantasy Gifts.

What does a cock ring do?

It holds the blood flow in the penis.  It is the blood flowing to the capillaries in the penis that makes the man erect.  By holding the blood flow in, the use of a cock ring can increase the girth of the penis and the time of erection.

Why should I as a woman, encourage my man to use a cock ring?

Cock rings give men a thicker, harder, longer lasting erection.  Because it generally takes a woman 20 minutes of foreplay before she is aroused enough to have sex, the erection ring helps to prevent premature ejaculation.

As a man, should I feel threatened if my woman wants me to use a cock ring?

Not at all.  It enhances the sexual experience for both partners.  The purpose of the cock ring is to enhance the sexual experience for both .  It gives him a thicker, longer lasting erection and a more explosive ejaculation.  For her, she reaps the benefit of a longer lasting encounter and a firmer penis.

Does one size fit all?

No, while most rings are flexible jelly or rubber and will naturally expand and constrict to fit most men, in some cases men will need different sizes.  That is why we offer items like the Island Rings, which offers 3 cock rings in different sizes in one package to give him the opportunity to see what fit is the most comfortable for him.

What is a cock ring made of?

Most cock rings are made of  flexible jelly, rubber, silicone to allow for a flexible, firm fit.  Metal cock rings are available for the more experienced cock ring user.  However, we do not recommend them for first time use as there is a danger that you will have a difficult time removing it if you do not have the right size.  Cock rings are also available in leather which will not provide the tightest fit and are not as easy to clean because they are porous.  

How do I put a cock ring on?

A cock ring should go on the base of a flaccid penis.  It should fit snugly and securely but not too tight.  As you become erect, the ring will become increasingly tighter.  It should be placed on immediately prior to intercourse and removed immediately after ejaculation.  A lubricant such as System Jo H2O Water Based Personal Lubricant helps the cock ring to go on more easily.  It also can aid in easy removal, particularly in the case of an erect penis if the man has failed to ejaculate.  A cock ring should not be left on more than 30 minutes because it can cause a drop in blood pressure.

What's the difference between a cock ring and a vibrating cock ring?

Obviously one vibrates, the difference is where the vibration goes and which part of the body is being stimulated.  In the case of a single stimulation vibrating cock ring such as The Clit Flicker with Wireless Stimulator , not only is the woman's clitoris stimulated, but the vibration also transfers to stimulate and arouse the man.  You can also use a single stimulation vibrating cock ring with the vibrator at the base underneath the penis so he can receive penile and testicular stimulation.  If you choose to take it down below the testicles, he also get penile and perineum stimulation.  For a dual stimulation cock ring such as the Triple Orgasm Erection Enhancer, the ring goes at the base of the shaft of the penis and provides two stimulators, one for her to receive clitoral stimulation and one where he can receive penile and testicular stimulation. 

The varieties in vibrating cock rings are endless.  For example, the Dual Clit Flicker offers dual support for him and clitoral stimulation for her.  The 3 Way Double Dolphin provides a TPR penis sleeve for him and dual clitoral stimulators for her.  The MachO Double Cock Ring gives you a cock ring, a testicular ring and a clitoral stimulator.

How else can a cock ring be used?

A cock ring can be used either around the base of the shaft of the penis or, if you buy slightly larger, around the shaft of the penis.  By pulling the testicles though first, you can gently fold a flaccid penis through the opening to pull the testicles away from the body.  This helps to prevent premature ejaculation.

You can also add it to any of your favorite dildos - whether it is glass, jelly or silicone, a vibrating cock ring will add a new dimension to your sex toys!

Can I use it if I'm gay?

Absolutely!  The principle is still the same.  For gay men, the clitoral stimulator would instead vibrate the scrotum.  For lesbians, simply add the cock ring to to your favorite dildo!

How should I clean a cock ring?

Regular soap and water is fine.  Remember, if it has a battery compartment, do not submerge it into water. For easier clean-up , you can also use a specially designed toy cleaner such as Berman Center Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner .  Or we have disposable options such as Screaming O Vibrating Couples Ring.

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